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alikat · Dec 23, 2006, 09:23 PM

I started dating a man in June who was going through a divorce, I as well was going through relationship issues at the time.We had known each other for 6 years and then starting talking again as we were going thorough our problems.We both have children, and are very dedidv=cated to them. We started datinfg in June, had a lot in common and had fun together, share the same values etc... Sept comes, and he enters thereapy, therapist suggests he stops dating to get his head clear and to get over his wife... Assures me we will still be friends... Well, now we hardly talk.. If ever... All I can say, is that this really has me a mess.. I felt "it"That connection.. I felt that it was real.. I just don't know where to go from here.. I have tried to let it go.. but then I call, or email, or text him... not hardly ever getting a response.. He said he is sorry he hurt me and for the first time in his life he has to be selfish and think about him.. I am just wondering.. Is there hope.. or do I move on>

mjinms · Dec 24, 2006, 12:45 AM

Originally Posted by alikat

I started dating a man in June who was going through a divorce, I as well was going through relationship issues at the time.We had known each other for 6 years and then starting talking again as we were going thorough our problems.We both have children, and are very dedidv=cated to them. We started datinfg in June, had alot in common and had fun together, share the same values ect...Sept comes, and he enters thereapy, therapist suggests he stops dating to get his head clear and to get over his wife...Assures me we will still be friends...Well, now we hardly talk..If ever...All I can say, is that this really has me a mess..I felt "it"That connection..I felt that it was real.. I just dont know where to go from here.. I have tried to let it go..but then I call, or email, or text him...not hardly ever getting a response..He said he is sorry he hurt me and for the first time in his life he has to be selfish and think about him..I am just wondering..Is there hope..or do I move on>

He's doing what the theraapist suggested. If someone jumps into one relashion without fixing the other first, it can cause grief. He needs to have clear judgement before setting you up. Using you as a crutch is not fair and not grieving and ending the first relatioship is not fair to you. Continue to see if he is OK and wait. If he was truly your friend he will show up. If he doesn't, he was never really yoour friend in the first place

jrussole · Dec 24, 2006, 05:54 AM

Ali, I would move on.

ordinaryguy · Dec 24, 2006, 06:02 AM

This is essentially the same question you posted in the relationships forum:
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...ime-49683.html
Are you hoping that psychics and fortune tellers will give you answers you like better?

alikat · Dec 24, 2006, 06:53 AM

Originally Posted by ordinaryguy

This is essentially the same question you posted in the relationships forum:
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...ime-49683.html
Are you hoping that psychics and fortune tellers will give you answers you like better?

Well, they are supposed to be psychics.. Not that I didn't like your answers, I do agree, I just wanted to know if there is hope for this relationship in the fututre or if I should just cut my losses and move on.