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KateyLM · Dec 20, 2006, 11:14 PM

I have a 6 month old beautiful little baby boy. The father has not been involved by choice. He has some "issues" and agreed that it was in my son's best interest if he was not part of his life. We both wish for him to sign over all parental rights. This would give me the right to get married in the future and have my husband adopt my son or whatever the case may be. I am in California and not sure how to do this. I do not care about the child support. He has no job and no money and we are staying with my family and doing well. I just want it all done legally to prevent future complications. Thank you.

excon · Dec 21, 2006, 05:00 AM

Originally Posted by KateyLM

I have a 6 month old beautiful little baby boy. He has no job and no money...... Thank you.

Hello Katey:

Child support is not YOURS to turn down. It's your beautiful baby boys' money. Yes, the father has no job - NOW. 20 years is a loooong time. Just consider that at even a minimum $100 per month, over the next 20 years, that's over $20,000. Do you have $20 grand that you can give away?? What could you buy for your "beautiful baby boy", with $20 large??

Go see a family lawyer.

excon

jrussole · Dec 21, 2006, 05:10 AM

Katey, I can understand why you want to end this relationship once and for all. And if you will not need the financial and or emotional support in the future for your child than accepting his declination of parental rights is fine. But like excon said, a lot can change in 2,4, 10, 20 years. If you think this guy is going to be a deadbeat anyway, then maybe it is something to consider. This way you are free from his presence in you and your child's life all together. It is my opinion that it is not practical to eliminate parental rights of a parent. Especially if someday that child wants to know who her/his biological father is/was. Which will probably be the case. It is for many of us, anyway. I still want to know who my first father was/is. And I am in my forties. Whatever the facts. Whatever the circumstances. I feel I have had a right to know who he was or at least get my medical information from him. What he has given me genetically, that is.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 21, 2006, 06:43 AM

You can not do this at this time, if and when you are married, and when that new spouse wants to adopt, then he can sign over all his rights and obligations.

But almost never does a court take away his obligation to pay child support, since the state has a interest in it, The state wants the ability to go after the father if the child ever needs public welfare

s_cianci · Dec 24, 2006, 09:32 PM

As far as the legality goes, there's nothing you need to do now. If you eventually get married, just have your husband adopt the chid at that time. Keep in mind that if you ever apply for public assistance on your child's behalf you'll be required to file for child support against the father.