[martinizing2]

OP here is a little extract from the last of the links I left for you in my other post.

"A person who is completely irresponsible is subject to anger, hostility, fear, resentment, doubt-all sorts of negative emotions. And here’s why. All negative emotions tend to be associated with blame. Fully 99 percent of all our problems exist only because we’re able to blame someone or something for them. The instant we stop blaming, our negative emotions begin disappearing.

What’s the antidote to blaming? It’s simple! Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, either positive or negative, you can override the tendency to blame and become angry simply by saying, firmly, “I am responsible!”

You can’t accept responsibility for a situation and be angry at the same time. You can’t accept responsibility and be unhappy or upset. The acceptance of responsibility negates negative emotions and short-circuits any tendencies toward unhappiness.

The very act of accepting responsibility calms your mind and clarifies your vision. It soothes your emotions and enables you to think more positively and constructively. In fact, the acceptance of responsibility often gives you insight into what you should do to resolve the situation."

This is an example of the excellent information added by people from the sight.

[positiveparent]

0P if you should come back, please know we none of us here wanted you to reveal anything you felt uncomfortable with, we wouldnt need you to tell us every last detail to offer you help, also by having other members adding their own opinions or suggestions for how to resolve an issue or problem it gives you the person asking for help a much wider and more diversified range of ways to try, and the more choice the more likely a successful outcome for solving your problem through the wider range of opinions and solutions available.

I understand you believe youve been persecuted and treated badly, however, none of us here did that to you, and we wouldnt, we only try to help not harm not hinder not harass, or hassle. just HELP.

I hope you can eventually find some way of resolving your issues, and come back and post again anytime. We do want to help you.