[CaptainAIM]

Many years ago I had this friend but he would often take that friendship for granted.  For example he would get into trouble and expect to have his back even though I couldn't care less about his self-imposed troubles. He would even get noticeably upset if he saw me with other friends of mine (even if they were girls)  It was almost as if being friends with me gave him a false sense of security.  This friendship ended when we went to different high schools. To this day I still hear from people who know him that he still talks about me as if I were still his best friend even though I've rarely had contact with him in about 8 years.  Recently I heard that he is about to transfer to the college I am attending which something I'm not exactly looking forward to.  What are some things I can do to help tell him that I don't feel the same ways about this "friendship" that he does.

[Lavina]

Hi,

Well to me it seems like a slight case of obsession that your friend has. It may be that since you were once his friend he may have thought by not saying you care about his problems or telling him what you really think of him made him think that you got a "best friends" forever thing going there. He seems to have develop a the sense that you will always be there for him in the event of a trouble. That may be why he is planning to transfer to your college. You could tell him that it has been a long time since you last saw each other and that your friendship is not what it as it's use to be. And tell him what you think of what the friendship was truly like. I really hope this helps!