[lovejoy38]

My 19 and a half year old son is dating a 15 and a half year old girl. She lied and told me she was 16 and even then I'm still upset about it. I think she is too young. Spoke with her mother about it. She said its OK. Her father is not OK with it. I am horrified of my son getting in trouble. I'm trying to talk him out of the relationship for his own good. I know in pa. the cosent to date is 16. I will still feel the same way I feel when she turns 16. Any advice on helping him to break up with this girl without hurting her feelings?

[ScottGem]

the cosent to date is 16.

You are incorrect here. There is no such thing as a Consent to date age. There are no laws anywhere in the US and most of the world that regulate how old a person must be to date. Age of consent laws refer ONLY to sexual activity.

However, a minor is still under the control of their parents (your son is not a minor but the girl is). Therefore if her parents are against the relationship, he could get in trouble defying their wishes.

What does a 19 yr old MAN want with a 15 1/2 yr old child, even a 16 yr old child? They are at very different stages in their development. Is your son in college or working?

But your question appears to be how your son can break it off without hurting the girl. What makes you think she will be hurt. She lied to your son, so what qualifies her to not be hurt? Let him tell her that since she was dishonest with him about her age, that leaves him with trust issues about her and if he can't fully trust her, the relationship will never go anywhere. While this may hurt her, it will, hopefully, teach her a lesson about honesty.

[Fr_Chuck]

At this point or even at 16 there are various laws that could still be used against him, if either of her parents object