Originally Posted by
Just_Another_Lemming
You and I both know that simply because this wasn't posted under the "legal" forum it doesn't negate a response advising someone to go get legal help.
I have noticed over the past couple of years the "experts" have used this line quite often. Judy, I remember when you were a newbie. How else did I know to say "MT" to you on another thread? Please don't assume that the person you are speaking with knows less than you do simply because they have a smaller number of posts and they don't have the title of "Expert".
You missed my first point entirely - I was addressing why personal advice was posted here instead of strictly legal advice. On the legal board it would have been strictly legal. Posting on the legal board pretty much precludes the personal advice. It doesn't work the other way around.
I am not assuming anyone knows more or less than I do, has more or less education or experience, nor have I ever said that. What I do know is that those of us who have posted many, many times have a better sense of where a thread is going - answer the same or similar question about five hundred times and you have a completely different viewpoint. The ex-female partner is always hysterical, vindictive, irresponsible; the ex-male partner is always violent and has a drinking problem. That's just how the situation is presented.
I am well aware that the majority of the people who post legal questions only want their actions or thinking to be ratified - they don't want to know the legal answer. They want to hear that they are right.
And some legal advice surprises me but this isn't a legal thread and so I didn't comment. You said:
"He won't be responsible for paying her A FREAKING DIME if he can get Joint Custody order from the courts." From my reading of UK law the non-custodial parent still pays child support to the custodial parent when there is a joint custody order. The money doesn't go to "her" (the ex). It is for the support of the child.
I am also somewhat surprised by your public scolding of people (experts or not) who give answers which don't agree with yours. I would never deny you the right to express your opinion, whether I agreed with it.
I'm amazed that you remember when I was a "newbie." I joined in 2007; you joined in 2010. Did you post under another name in the past?