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sasor_odracir · Dec 17, 2006, 06:36 PM

Im bisexual and I'm trying to come out to my mom. She hates when I bring up the sub. And hates gays! She is also a strong faith believer. How do I tell her without her hating me!! :confused:

talaniman · Dec 17, 2006, 06:45 PM

I don't know how old you, are or if you live at home, so its hard to figure a good answer. One thing for sure you know how she feels about this already, and I also suspect she knows already and is in denial. She probably will never hate you, but never accept who you are either. I think you should not just push this on her though, so you will have to figure on what is a good time, if ever.

sasor_odracir · Dec 17, 2006, 08:29 PM

Im 18 and a senior in HS and live @ home with her

Skell · Dec 17, 2006, 08:42 PM

So your definitely bi-sexual?

You aren't just in some sort of experimental stage are you?

JoeCanada76 · Dec 17, 2006, 09:09 PM

No one should hate anybody. I have a strong faith too, but people tend to put their anger, hate towards the person. It is not right, and not of God. If you feel the need to share this with your mother. You need to do it. Be strong, and know that if you try to live your life for other people. Trying to make other people happy. Believe me your not going to be happy. Even when you make the decision to tell your mom, and she makes or try to makes your life hard. Remember that you do not need approval from your mother, and if she does not continue to love you and accept you as you are. You know that she is not much of a mother and that you need to go forward with your life without her, and maybe one day she will come around and accept you, or maybe she will be understanding right away. If this is eating away at you, you do need to make a decision to tell your mom and to deal with the reaction that might come from that.

Joe

talaniman · Dec 17, 2006, 09:44 PM

I'm from the old school, where we were taught to love and respect our elders, and to be clear, the love for MOM is way up there in the scheme of things, so her feelings are always to be considered. If your looking for acceptance from her as to who you are, and already know how she feels, what good would it do to even try and convince her of how you feel? I think this is something that will take more maturing on your part to be able to not only talk to her about this subject, but to deal with whatever comes next. Whatever you decide should be thought out, and presented respectfully as possible.

sasor_odracir · Dec 18, 2006, 05:24 PM

Skell yea I've known since I was 14, now 18. Thx a lot for the responds. I really think talaniman has a point, maybe it'll take more on my part! Thx again you guys rock! Maybe Ill have the courage soon to tell her!

jonjons1girl · Mar 6, 2007, 03:21 PM

If she's a believer, then she should know not to hate people for what they like or do. And for that matter she shouldn't be judging people either. That's from the bible hun. Bring this up when you talk to her. She should have a reality check. She won't hate you though, you're her baby. Explain it to her and your concerns with how she will feel about u.

missdad · Apr 29, 2007, 02:30 AM

If you want to hear it... ill tell yo how I told my mom I was bisexual... if you want to then read...
I was 16 when I started realising I liked girls.. and I didn't want anone finding out cause I thought everyone would hate me, I thought they would make fun of me.. or tell my mother. I don't have a dad around... was only kids and her... anyway... she started noticing I wasn't hangin out wit the guys I sually hung with... only girls who dress provocativly lol... she's veeery catholic... and wants me to be.. but I knew being bisexual wouldn't allow me to be both if you know what I mean...
So I started going to gay prid days to try and tell her... I don't know why but I had to tell her... I'm not going to date guys for my mom.. thas wrong lol...
So I started gon to gay pride days,. bring home gay men and lesbians to actually study with.. she thought I was crazy... I then turned around.. having dinner.. said mom I'm joining them. And she said who. I said my friends from cemestry and rugby glass. She said oh the fags and just started going on about how they arnt fit people and stuff olike that. I jumped up from the table and started swearing at her... at the time I was lesbian... 100%... so I jumped up started swearing and tell her how much a rude be itch she was being that she didn't care about how I felt. And I told her I was lesbian and she stopped dead in her tracks... my sis started laughing and mom told her to shut up. She looked at me with a mean look. And said " what the ****" told her its my damn choice I was sry but if he luvs me then she will appreciate what I've become. Its been yrs and my mother still hated the fact that I'm now bi.
She's not going to like it. If she does then she's wonderful!! Some people don't like it some do. If you think about it... men don't see problems with women and women doing it.. but lots have problem with men and men... well its pretty much the same damn thing. Just different sexuality. I would say tell her. You will end up at some point. And its better then her unexpectivly catching you lol.
GOOD LUCK HUN!!

lifewillbewhatyoumakeit · Oct 5, 2007, 09:24 AM

Tell her that nowadays everyone experiments... a lot more than when you were young mam!
So just so you know its possible I could end up with either sex... and by the way if you don't like it go and read up about it because the times have changed... and you need to get whit them!!