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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:02 AM
    I don't know how to help my boyfriend. His dad is dying free advice
    I met my partners Dad about 5 yrs ago and he was the most jovial, welcoming,take-in-anyone person you could ever meet. He has been in hospital, now a home for terminally ill people (7 months now). He has been given only a few weeks to live. He used to be such a big cuddly bear of a man. I see him now and I hurt so much because I know the end is near. He has wasted away. He refuses food. I think he WANTS to give up and ITS HAPPENING. My partner is his son and our relationship has been deteriorating since. We are not intimate anymore, we don't talk, we don't even cuddle. My partner (like his father and self admitted) does not allow me to have friends. Or talk to anyone at all. (LOL) If he sees this, Im ed!) All I want to do is know HOW to support him. All I want to do is leave the abuse, but how can I " things up, by leaving?" I guess Im really screwed. can't leave him now, iPlease Help
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:18 AM
    Hi, ellykat!

    How was your relationship with the son before his dad started dying, please?

    Thanks!
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:23 AM
    Close. We had the most passionate relationship. We have seen each other through some extraordinary things.
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:24 AM

    Now its dead dead dead
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:26 AM
    So, is whatever "abuse" is going on, only because of how he has changed since his father is dying?
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:27 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ellykat View Post
    now its dead dead dead
    Okay. But, I'm assuming that you would like to keep it alive. Would that be correct?
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:29 AM

    If you allow me to quote the inevitable? Life goes on, (small cry) I can accept the beauty and passion of life. That's me. I used to say "if you want to know me, I am love."
    I don't say that anymore.
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:35 AM

    Sorry, I didn't get the last question. Um. Very much emotional not physical now the police have been involved again and again and again. I am only permitted to live in certain smaller and smaller circles. My best friend is his mother and that's it.
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:38 AM

    No. I told him and his Mum that I would like to get my own flat. Holy . Im too old for this , yet Im still here. I want o go.
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:38 AM
    How long have you known him and his family, please?

    I apologize for all the questions. But, it helps to get sufficient enough information in order for people to advise the best here.

    Thanks!
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:41 AM

    Guess you gone too
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:43 AM
    I'm not gone. I was changing my options so that people can see that I'm online here. It's really late for me right now. And, sometimes it's best to move around the site being "cloaked" as it were...
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:44 AM
    Did you see my post #10?
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:44 AM

    Eine kleine
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:47 AM

    No, I don't know how to look
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:50 AM

    LOL U sound like undercover something. Why do you have do do what u said? I look where you ask me to
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:50 AM
    I don't know what "skin" for the site you're using. But for me, we're on page 2. So, you might need to go to the first page of the thread to read post #10.
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:51 AM

    Rock Island. Is that USA?
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ellykat View Post
    LOL U sound like undercover something. Why do you have do do what u said? I look where you ask me to
    Sometimes people who are regulars on the site can get involved "live" in more than one thread at a time. It can help to slow things down a bit by being "cloaked". At least that's one of the reasons for doing it.
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    Jul 23, 2010, 12:53 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ellykat View Post
    Rock Island. Is that USA?
    Yes. IL for Illinois is written next to Rock Island.
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