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    Clementine49 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 21, 2010, 05:40 PM
    Argument with fiancé about wedding date
    My fiancé wants to move the date so we argued, I'm sad, please help
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    redhed35 Posts: 4,221, Reputation: 1910
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    Jul 22, 2010, 11:27 AM

    Is there a reason why he wants to move it?

    He did not call of the wedding,perhaps there is a compromise?
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    LearningAsIGo Posts: 2,653, Reputation: 350
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    Jul 22, 2010, 12:34 PM

    Why does he want to move it?

    Why don't you want to move it?

    There's nothing to be sad about... you just have to find the common ground.
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    Jake2008 Posts: 6,721, Reputation: 3460
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    Jul 23, 2010, 07:58 AM
    If you are old enough to get married, and be in an equal partnership, where you are heard and respected, you say you are just 'sad', why are you not mad as he** and still in negotiations to solve this problem.

    I don't know how angry you are, or why the date of marriage is so significant, nor why each of you can't agree on it.

    But, I can tell you if you can't even agree on that much, what are you going to do when it comes time to decide something far more important, like what's for dinner, burgers or tube steaks.

    I'm being a bit sarcastic here. This is such a petty problem. Maybe stick around and read what you can on marriage threads, and the stickies at the top of the marriage section, and see just what you can learn about relationship priorities.
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    Jul 28, 2010, 02:07 PM
    You should add more info. Are you mad because he is trying to play games?
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    Jul 28, 2010, 08:06 PM

    Marriage 101 - you have to both learn to communicate with each other. It's not clear from your post whether he is getting cold feet or just wants a different day on the calendar. Is it a different date he wants, or no date, or an unclear date?

    If he's not ready, he's not ready - don't force him. If you can't wait, you need to move on and find someone who is ready to move on with you.
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