Originally Posted by
Julie7435
he wants me to accept that i should accept that he will help her. i told him fine. she has some problems with her husband and i think she does not have anybody to talk. do not know much abt her problems. i agree with u joseph.
i am upset. that he is going away from me. i also can't understand why. when he says there is nothing physical with her. but the feelings are there. he is not letting me touch him.
I'm really not sure how he is "going away" from you. And this woman is married, and having problems?
By him shunning your affection shows that he is in some sort of struggle emotionally.
She needs help. She is having problems with her marriage. That is precisely the time that people recall past relationships, and wonder how to rekindle them. It sounds like she is trying to lure your husband in with "the lady in distress" bit.
There is more to this situation. And from down here, it doesn't look admirable.
If he is leaving to help this woman, for an extended period, without you, then he needs to reminded of who he confessed his love and commitment to.
I have no idea what kind of man that he is, or isn't, capable of being. But ANY man would be tempted by this arrangement.
Ask him if it's worth losing your love and trust over. Make him really consider the consequences of his actions.
There is no way that I would put myself in that position.
And most importantly, there is no way that I would ask my wife to be put through hell, all for the sake of "helping" an ex girlfriend. No way.
Love is more than that.