[BlazingCold]

I'm starting to believe that a year is a good figure to use to actually get yourself back on track, sort your life out by making improvements, riding through the pain and letting go in preparation for dating again. I still don't feel emotionally ready enough for anything along the lines of dating. I don't believe true love dies, you carry it inside but I also believe that you can truly love more than once.

I agree with everything you've said, except for placing a time on it. Only you know when you're ready to start another relationship, but putting time constraints on it just puts undo pressure on yourself to be "ready" by that time.

True love doesn't die. Eventually, you'll only remember the good parts (if you choose to) and still care about that person, but know that it just wasn't meant to be. I care about my ex still, but the intense feelings are pretty much gone. I wasn't sure if I'd find another again, but instead of always wondering if it was a rebound, I just let myself "feel the moment" and go wherever life takes me.

Life's now blown me to someone who shares so much in common with me, I can't really remember what I saw in my ex!:)

[april75]

My ex told me he loved me, and thought he would never find someone he was more compatible with. 2 weeks later he's in a relationship with a coworker and they've got their pet names plastered all over myspace. Everyone is telling me it's a rebound...but they seem so happy together. It hurts.


Personally, I don't feel like I'm going to be ready for another relationship for a longggg time!


What happens to people that keep rebounding to the next relationship? Do they eventually realize their pattern...or do they finally find their special someone? Hmmmm

Either it was a rebound or he was lying to you about his feelings. :(

Hopefully, repetative rebounders do eventually realize their pattern can be very destructive and learn to do the contrary. As a past rebounder myself, I know I have... it was my first time and last. If I should become single again I will be patient and wise about going into another serious relationship.

In my opinion finding that special someone simply requires living... it is not really difficult to find someone special or your true love that God meant for you to have... because they will find you when you least expect it. :)