[buddyholmes]

I'm 21, a premed senior in college. My girlfriend is a junior at the same school and wants to be a high school chem teacher. We've been together a year.

Lately she's been getting all C's and is very upset. Every time I speak to her she tells me her latest bad grade and how upset its making her. I know she is going through a very rough time, but I can't relate very well. I have a 3.8 GPA and have gotten all A's and only about 3 B's in courses throughout our whole time at college.

I love her but it has been hard to relate to her academically. We can't share in our joys of high grades and I don't have time to help her with her subjects (not that I want to, because helping her in the past has made me feel like her parent as opposed to her equal).

Any insight into our situation?

[olka]

You don't have to help her with her subjects. What you should do is to help her find out her problems in her studies & help her overcome these problems. Her problems may be due to poor understanding, poor memory, lack of concentration, insufficient reading, lack of interest, or something else. With your experience, I think you can teach her the right way to study. Give her some help, & she'll love you for it. 8)