[jakepc]

I'm 22 and I had feeling for this girl but never told her how I felt and now she started dating one of my good friends and he knew how I felt about her. But after they started dating I got up the guts to tell her how I feel and she said I should have told her that a few days ago. Which strikes me weird because it sounds like she is saying if have said I love you first I would be dating you... like she has feelings for me. And then talking to her she told me she wasn't going to marry him which make me wonder why she is dating him. Don't we date people we want to be with for the rest of our lives? I would say she in it for the sex but she doesn't strike me as that type of person. I could be wrong.

[positiveparent]

Mostly we date people when we are in our late teens and early 20s, however its not often that a person we date first is the person we eventually marry, its kind of like checking out the opposite sex to find out who we want to spend the rest of our lives with, although in some parts of the world and in some religions people who date each other from their teens will go on to marry that person.

Its really depends on the individuals in a relationship.

However with this girl you are talking about, she is now in a relationship with your friend, and any talk you and she have regarding your feelings is off limits, because it could lead to her cheating on him, and that's not right or fair of either of you to even consider that, I suggest you talk to her and tell her that you will not contemplate encouraging her with your talk of having feelings for her whilst she is with this other Man..

If they finish their relationship and you and this girl then get together that's fine, but not whilst she is with someone else.

Regardless of how you feel about her its not right to consider any involvement with her whilst she is taken.

Just because she has said she won't be marrying him doesn't mean she's only in it for the sex, if she's only been seeing him for a short time they're probably just spending time getting to know each other, sex may or may not come later.

[Homegirl 50]

First off, you had no right telling her that once she started dating someone. She is not off limitsI just because you can't open your mouth and tell a girl you like her .

People don't always date to marry, they date to get to know people, they date to have fun. If she is with him for sex (which there is no evidence to prove she is) that is her business not yours.

A closed mouth does not get fed. The food goes to the next person. Next time speak up, don't go after it once it's in someone else's mouth.

[jakepc]

First off you had no right telling her that once she started dating someone. If you can't open your mouth and tell a girl you like her, she is not off limits.

People don't always date to marry, they date to get to know people, they date to have fun. If she is with him for sex (which there is no evidence to prove she is) that is her business not yours.

A closed mouth does not get fed. The food goes to the next person. Next time speak up but don't go after it once it's in someone else's mouth.

I didn't say she was I said she might me but I don't think so because she isn't that kind of person.

[Homegirl 50]

The thought crossed your mind, why else would you say something like that.
People don't date solely for marriage.

[talaniman]

Too little, too late, you missed the boat, and now have to focus elsewhere, and leave her alone.

That's the lesson you learn.