[Myralenore2900]

Hello!

First of all I have been best friends with my friend for over 6 years now. We had our rough times and we had our good times and we came out of all pretty good. In relationships I've always had insecurities about trusting people so she pretty much is one person I trust by now. However lately, sometimes I feel like if I wasn't calling her or asking her if she wanted to hang, she would never call me! I know she has a rough job, a boyfriend and school so I don't think she has much time. But even when we do end up hanging out, I feel like I forced her or would have made her feel guilty about it if she didn't come. But then she would reasure me she wanted to. I have work and school also but why do I feel like I'm the only one willing to keep the relationship alive?
Got any Ideas of what I should do?
Thanks,

[positiveparent]

If she says she wanted to hang out with you then I would think she means that.

Perhaps you're feeling a little unsure or insecure because she now has a b/f so is unable to spend as much time with you as she did before.

She may not have anywhere near as much free time on her hands as you do and that's why she doesn't call you so often.

I see my best girlfriend about once a year if that, but it doesn't mean she isn't still a good friend she is and I know if I ever needed her she would be there for me and I for her.

People change circumstances change, we have more free time or less free time, if we are friends though it doesn't mean we still aren't if we don't see each other as often or call each other as often , its just life...

[ZoeMarie]

How old are the two of you?

What I've found in the past few years is that when we start taking on adult responsibility we have less time for the fun things. This might not even apply to you guys at all, but since getting married and buying a house, among other things I see my friends less. We still make it a point to get together every now and then for game nights or whatever, but we just don't have the time to hang out as frequently as we would like. Does that make sense or is that not even the case?

[talaniman]

Maybe she is just busier than you are.

I think that having more things to do with out her company would help, as life has a way of keeping us too occupied to do everything we would like too.

[Starry nights]

All relationships in our lives involve a second person,on whom and whose life we really don't have any control.Hence,we also can't say why they react how they react,why they say what they say etc.

We can guess,at best,but might not even get anywhere near to the real explanation.

Just take her actions the way they are,at face value,till the time she explains/does something to prove your wrong.

And then,don't lose any sleep about it.Carry on with your life.Carry on normally for your part and don't analyse too much.Maybe its nothing.Or maybe a lot.Till the time you have facts,you can't take any action/do anything about it.Time will tell what all this is about.

[sully123]

She just seems real busy! I don't think she means to hurt you anyway when your trying to keep the friendship going. I wouldn't take it personal. Maybe, just back off a little bit, and let her get in touch with you.