Communication issues in marriage
Hey guys,
I am looking for answers to my troubles and I think this is a place I can get some objective advice.
I have been married for 3 years and while my husband and I love each other very much and get along like close buddies, I'm facing more and more domestic frustration as time passes.
He doesn't like to split responsibilities at home and I have to do everything by myself. All the cooking, cleaning, organizing, gardening, shopping, groceries, entertaining etc etc.
I have a high pressure job as does he and we earn equally. I work with a prestigious company and am very ambitious. But I feel really frustrated that I have to hurry back from office day after day and manage our lives while he blissfully spends all his time working / meeting people/ playing and then gets home for dinner, which is about 9pm and we watch TV and go to sleep.
I spend all my free time doing house related work and don't get the time to pursue my own interests and hobbies anymore.
We are also both so tired that we don't even make love anymore! When he does, it's with a quick get it over with approach. I don't feel attractive or precious anymore.
Truth is I feel abused / neglected / unattractive in this relationship. But I also love him madly. And I believe in his love too.
So I tried having a conversation, without getting offensive or soppy. When I explained what I wanted to talk about, he says "why must we reduce everything to conversation? I don't like to talk about all this".
I'm banging my head against the wall! Please please tell me what to do. How do we get the magic in this relationship? Are all men so frustrating??
We talk about work and other people all the time so it's not as if he doesn't like to talk about his problems. But not this... why??
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