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jahnplay · Dec 10, 2006, 10:49 PM

OK there is girl that is 16 years old I think at school I am 17 and she started likeing me like a week ago. She is the one who started talking by saying hi or hey when she sees me on the bus or hallway I like her too. On the bus I always sit at the back seat and she turns her head around something's to me and smiles and look forward but I don't know what to do to be a friend with her does anyone got a tip on what to do?

letmetellu · Dec 10, 2006, 11:06 PM

Next time you get on the bus don't go to the back of the bus. Sit in a seat that would be close to where she sits. That is enough at this time to let her know that you are interested in her.

AKaeTrue · Dec 10, 2006, 11:18 PM

Next time you see her, you be the first to say hello. Then make conversation... Ask her what she does after school or on weekends (or if you know of something better that you'd like to use). That will strike up a conversation and it will take off from there. It's that simple... After you break the ice, the rest is a piece of cake.

jahnplay · Dec 10, 2006, 11:27 PM

Thanks I will try it tomorrow

ScottGem · Dec 11, 2006, 07:07 AM

Ask her about herself, her likes, what she does in her spare time, what classes she likes, etc. Get her talking about herself and LISTEN. You will find it pretty easy to go on from there.

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colonel000036 · Dec 11, 2006, 02:56 PM

Get her a Christmas ornament. Something cute. Give her a card. Write something nice inside. Make it memorable. Don't forget your phone number and shirt size on the inside. Why the shirt size? I don't know. It may be a good ice breaker. Then you can ask her what size ring she wears, wrist , anklet, ear, see where I am going?

Good luck. Treat her right! James

jahnplay · Dec 11, 2006, 03:41 PM

Thanks I will try to do that later on because this is the first day to talk together we talked and she already knows my name and then she tolled me her name. I asked what she did at school today and other stuff thanks. I will try all I can to know her

ScottGem · Dec 11, 2006, 06:07 PM

Originally Posted by colonel000036

Get her a Christmas ornament. Something cute....

I really disagree with this answer. Getting gifts asking for things like sizes etc is bribery. Its going way to far and way to fast. A teenage boy should not be giving gifts to someone until they start dating. The advice sends the wrong message or materialism. Giving gifts should be an expression of affection not bribery to get to know someone better.

ScottGem · Dec 11, 2006, 06:09 PM

Originally Posted by colonel000036

Get her a Christmas ornament. Something cute....

I really disagree with this answer. Getting gifts asking for things like sizes etc is bribery. Its going way to far and way to fast. A teenage boy should not be giving gifts to someone until they start dating. The advice sends the wrong message or materialism. Giving gifts should be an expression of affection not bribery to get to know someone better. ESPECIALLY at this young age.

Originally Posted by jahnplay

thanks i will try to do that later on becouse this is the first day to talk together we talked and she already knows my name and then she tolled me her name. i asked what she did at school today and other stuff thanks. i will try all i can to know her

Jahn,

Sounds like things are proceeding nicely, take it easy, by the end of the week you should be able to ask her for a date. What might be nice is to take her to a tree lighting ceremony in your town if one is scheduled.

s_cianci · Dec 11, 2006, 07:12 PM

Small talk is the way to go. Keep it light. Discuss classes, the weather, holiday plans. Anything of interest to the two of you as students at the same high school and as two young people from the same town. Maybe give her a call in the middle of christmas vacation just to say hi and see how she is. Don't get too romantic too soon or you'll most likely blow it. Light-hearted flirtatious humor is what you want.

jahnplay · Dec 11, 2006, 07:49 PM

Yes well problem is I don't have a car to drive anywhere

ScottGem · Dec 12, 2006, 06:32 AM

Depending on where you live, that may not be a great impediment. I didn't get my drivers license until I was 21 because where I lived had a great public transportation system.

Talk to your parents, they may be willing to drop you and the girl off at the mall or whatever. And, last I heard, walking still worked as a mode of transportation ;)

Capuchin · Dec 12, 2006, 06:35 AM

walking still worked as a mode of transportation

Sooooo 20th century :rolleyes:

jahnplay · Dec 12, 2006, 12:35 PM

Well she lives really near me like 5 houses away from me

ScottGem · Dec 12, 2006, 12:38 PM

That works nicely.

jahnplay · Dec 12, 2006, 02:53 PM

Her birthday is coming up what should I get a flower?

colonel000036 · Dec 12, 2006, 06:10 PM

I understand about the materialistic aspect and the negativity this could bring, however it 'tis the season. Right? I am not talking about a whole tree. One ornament would be a reminder of who you are and every time she sees it on the tree she will think of you. This may not be a bad thing. It is also a nice thing to do. Is that so wrong?

colonel000036 · Dec 12, 2006, 06:12 PM

Shoot this is perfect. If you know it is her birthday then you have an excuse. I don't think think that would be sending the wrong message as another postee stated.

ScottGem · Dec 13, 2006, 06:17 AM

Originally Posted by colonel000036

I understand about the materialistic aspect and the negativity this could bring, however it 'tis the season. Right? I am not talking about a whole tree. One ornament would be a reminder of who you are and every time she sees it on the tree she will think of you. This may not be a bad thing. It is also a nice thing to do. Is that so wrong?

Ahh I see where you are coming from here. Using the season to help her remember him. Ok I read it a bit wrong. (see below)

Originally Posted by jahnplay

her birthday is comming up what should i get a flower?

Here I agree with Colonel, this gives you a good excuse to get her something to remember you by. I wouldn't go with a flower unless it's a silk one that doesn't die. If you know she likes stuffed or plush animals, you can get a small one inexpensively. Another idea is one of the musical cards that plays a tune when you open it.

I do think you should make it cute and inexpensive (under $10). Do you know her friends? Maybe they can help you with things she likes.

colonel000036 · Dec 14, 2006, 04:20 PM

Okay, I can admit when I am wrong. Going to extreme with the jewelry is way overboard not to mention really suspicious. Keep things cordial and within reason. Respectful. Going and getting something really fancy would be inappropriate. Billy Wilder once said, "Hindsight is always 20/20!"

Colonel