[becka19]

My boyfriend, to say the least has a very female dominated list of friends. This would not bother me if it wasant such an issue when I am to talk to my male friends.
We've been together for a year iin augest and I really need this issue resolved if anything is going to contiue after a year.
His ex girlffriend who is now his friend is calling him crying in the middle of the night once every couple nights. He leaves the bedroom to go talk to her about who knows what. Another female friend he previously slept with is always textinjg back and fourth with him, one time I read some messages where they were just texting sexual noises I supppose? "oh yeah thats the spot" etc. he said they were just joking around.
Recently he's gotten back in touch with an old friend, who he previously made out with at a bar, and they've now made plans to go pool hopping toegtther in the middle of night.
I'm not OK with this! Am I being selfish or silly??
Ever time I Facebook or text a male friend it's a big deal to him, often he accuses me of cheating. Is that maybe his guilty conscious?
Help!

[positiveparent]

Sounds like he may be playing away from home or if not then that's on his mind, texting sex sounds was it to someone isn't that called phone sex, or is it textual intercourse or similar.

It could all be platonic and fun orientated, however like yourself I have doubts, what's he want to go meet up with someone in middle of the night for.

I would confront him, if he says its nothing then suggest he takes you with him , call his bluff.

If he gives you a hard time about your texts or whatever just tell him Im doing no more with so and so than you are with whatshername honey.

Smiling sweetly as you say it through gritted teeth.

I can't help feeling that it could be a case of he who accuses is usually the one doing it.

You could drop him from a great height preferably. Hope you can sort it out.

[Jake2008]

I would say that he is a boyfriend to many, past, present, and future.

Barhopping with an ex, phone calls in the middle of the night from a distraught ex, all of it adds up to he likes being single, for all intent and purpose, but he also likes having you, exclusively.

He expects you to behave one way, yet, the same rules do not apply to him.

I think you are wise to question spending more time in a relationship with him, when he has continued relationships with other women.

I'd say his behaviour goes beyond what most would consider reasonable expectations of a committed partner to another.