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valinors_sorrow · Dec 8, 2006, 07:01 PM

The Story of How Relationships Grow Up

Two people, young and full of promise, think they are ready for a relationship. So one day it happens only it eventually hits a bumpy spot. Because they are both won't take responsibility (WTR) for what each of them does, it spirals out of control in the blame game until one day, it ends hence:

WTR + WTR = no relationship :(

One of them, on the back side of the break up begins to grow up a little, looks back at what happened and realises they had a part in what happened. They become willing to take responsibility (TR). Unfortunately they are still not seeing the whole picture and so they hook up again with the one who won't take responsibility (WTR) and eventually hits a bumpy spot. Because one won't take responsibility, the one who will eventually figures out that they can't make them take it and ends, hence:

TR + WTR = no relationship :(

One day two people, young but more seasoned, meet, fall in love and begin to form a relationship. They are happy for a long time but one day it hits a bumpy spot. Since they both take responsibility for what each does, they work at it until they work it out, hence:

TR + TR = lives happily (mostly) ever after :)

The End (Comments and Critical Reviews welcome) :p

s2tp · Dec 8, 2006, 07:07 PM

LOL cute, makes sense!. wish it was all that simple! Thanks for sharing! :oP

NeedKarma · Dec 8, 2006, 07:15 PM

No no no... the man has to "starve" the woman. A woman wants what she can't have!! 11
I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT11! 1! 1

:D

BlazingCold · Dec 8, 2006, 07:17 PM

Classic val!!

Simple on the surface, yet infinitely complex.

chuff · Dec 8, 2006, 11:25 PM

Ummm... I was told that there would be no math!

eisforx · Dec 9, 2006, 12:06 AM

What kind of person is the one that won't take resposability? What do they have to take resposability of? A TR has to come from a previous relationship and a WTR is someone that hasn't had experience?

Allheart · Dec 9, 2006, 02:23 AM

Pretty good there Val. A way to illustrate what is being said over and over on this site.
It's basically all about growing up ourselves as people and eventually becoming healthy inside, understanding and accepting and fixing our contributions (both good and bad) with past relationships that did not work, and meeting up with another healthy individual, who has done the same personal growth exercise and FINALLY having a healthy, loving relationship, that will last.

valinors_sorrow · Dec 9, 2006, 05:36 AM

All of your responses, such a delight, so infinitely you! LOL Thank you.

Geoffersonairplane · Dec 9, 2006, 05:40 AM

WTR + WTR x TR squared = ?

talaniman · Dec 9, 2006, 09:20 AM

It can't get any simpler than that Val, They key is you must be kind of healthy, to have a kind of healthy relationship, with another kind of healthy person. Kind of!

s_cianci · Dec 10, 2006, 03:11 PM

Good insight Val. It's also important for people to distinguish between what they can and cannot take responsibility for. I think a lot of young people sabotage themselves either by blaming themselves for things that they really have no control over (i.e. the other party's responsibility) or by blaming their partner for things that are really their own responsibility. Being able and willing to take responsibility is certainly important but so is being able to draw the line between what one is personally responsible for and what one isn't.

mckenzie134 · Apr 23, 2007, 07:47 PM

WRONG WRONG MAYBe a bit right. You need the woman to be wanting you and this is created by you making her feel like she misses and needs you!! 100 % true. The sooner people start believing this the more control and better relationship they will have. Don't let her have you all the time make her want you make her wait!!