[a2_22]

My ex husband cheated on me now we're divorced. Just want know did I do a right thing, everyone including him was telling me that was over. Do you think he is still in love with me?

[amicon]

He cheated on you and told you it was over.

Why would he still love you?

Heal from the divorce and move on with your life.

[Romefalls19]

Based on what he said and did, I'm going to go with NO

[Devorameira]

Sounds like you're still emotionally attached to him. That's not good in your situation.

Do yourself a favor - quit fretting and move on.

He cheated on you and told you to move on. It's obvious that he doesn't love you or he would have tried to stay with you and become a better man.

[CarrotTalker]

Consider going to therapy to work through some of the hurt.
Being cheated on in a marriage causes a lot of damage.

[Devorameira]

CarrotTalker is right. If you can't move beyond the pain, you might find counseling helpful.

Just remember - there are better days ahead!

[Kitkat22]

Once a cheater.. always a cheater..

[twinkiedooter]

You are still in denial about this relationship. He cheated. You divorced him. He said it was over. You still have not let "go" of him and still emotionally attached. And no, he's not in love with you any longer.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

I have to agree with everyone here.

He cheated--he's not sexually interested anymore.
He said it was over--he's not AT ALL interested anymore.

You are divorced, you're out of the grasp of a cheater and liar. Thank your lucky stars. Perhaps talking to a counselor or therapist would help you through your apparent attachment issues.

How long was the marriage? How long ago was the divorce?

[JoeCanada76]

It is very simple. Divorce was the only answer.

Love and respect is not part or was part of the relationship.

It might be hard but it is absolutely over.

[Jake2008]

Now that you have gone through the process of divorce, it is easy to slip back into that state where you second guess yourself, and wonder if you made the right decision.

Just because you divorced him, does not mean you don't love him in some ways.

Memories are one of those illusive brain functions that tend to fade out the bad, and accentuate the good. You may be re-living some of the past that surely had some good in it, after all you did marry him. If you have children, and he was a good father, those are all memories that will never be erased. The early, and growing years for both the relationship, and the future, at one time, were bright on the horizon.

What you may be thinking about is physical memories, where you actually shared experiences with him. But what he did, was break the bond of marriage, and he wanted out. That is not something you can always anticipate, or ever be prepared for. It just is.

Try writing out your thoughts and feelings on how you are feeling. It is okay to wonder about him, and admit that you did (do) still have love in your heart for him. He is a human being after all. But, as you keep writing, remember and write out the last of your history together, and where things started to go wrong. You will see a pattern that led to the end of the marriage, and it's much like getting to the end of a one way street.

When you are not clouded by the past, you will see things more clearly. Your present is entirely up to you, and how you take the memories of your marriage with you, is up to you. The future however, does not have him in it.

This will also help to get through and over any anger and bitterness you may hold toward him for parts of the marriage and/or breakup. You will see when you get to the end of that road that you have purged your thoughts and feelings, made them concrete and understandable on paper, and when you start to doubt things, read them over.

Soon you will find that the end of the road is not the end of the road at all. There is a fork going both ways, and you have the personal freedom to choose which path to take.

[JudyKayTee]

I'd believe him when he said he didn't love you.