[darken_my_heart203]

Okay please don't judge me.SO I am 14 yrs old and I cutt myself.I used to do scratches, but now the cuts are getting deeper.I want to tell my parents but I can't because I know it will hurt them and they will most likely send me away. Back in August I cut my hair off and they send me to live with my grandmother and was really PISSED! Now that they have ran out of places for me to go they probably will send me away to like and metal place or something. Ughh I don't know that to do.Im so stuck and lost,If I tell them,I'll cutt even deeper because I cutt myself when I let people down that's only one reason why I cut. I have no one to talk to because everyone will treat me different and I trust no-one.CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME!! WHO DO I TELL? WHAT DO I DO? Im so stressed and depressed =(...

[Jake2008]

You know that the cutting has to stop, and the only way to do that, is figure out why it's happening, and why you react with cutting when you let people down.

Your parents will eventually find out, and they should know about this. It is their job to help you get help.

You can help yourself by seeking help through your counsellor at school, or maybe your grandparents. Telling someone will begin a road to healing. You most likely cannot address all the issues related to your life that result in cutting, alone.

Please let your parents in on this so they can arrange to get help for you. Don't be afraid of trusting a professional, particularly one that has experience with kids who cut. You are not alone.

You are a person with a problem, that's all. Please don't let this go on, it is time to speak up.

[monkeydamyo]

see a therapist, I don't know y people have such difficulty doing this... most likely their pride will be hurt, they think they will be judged if they get real help- but remember its REAL help, they have years of specialized education teaching them how to help people. Tell your parents and come to a compromise that hopefully doesn't include u getting sent away somewhere.

and please realize this, u are not letting anyone down, you haven't signed a legal document on how u swear to be the perfect kid. U are obliged in no way to meet some unspoken standard. Try to please all and you will please none.

for me I see god, he expects something from us, but that is only to love everyone to our greatest ability (forgiveness, kindness, patience, etc.). Try not to sin and when u do sin, feel regret and seek true redemption and forgiveness from god- that is his one greatest joy, to forgive those that seek it honestly. The only judgment that matters is gods. Humans judge everything by instinct, everyone judges differently, like I said, try to please all and you'll please none.

so what if that guy over there thinks your stupid or lame, or that this other guy hates your guts for no reason? What are they going to do honestly? If they continue hating you, then you should pitty them because they lack the traits god hopes to see in us,forgiveness and patience. Not sre if your religious but that's what helps be get through the day sometimes.

[dontknownuthin]

I would suggest that you go to a counselor at school and ask them to help you tell your parents and help you come up with a plan. Don't be too afraid to go to a hospital or other treatment facility - you want to stop and that may be what it takes. You may need some medication and counseling to work through the reasons that you cut and to find a healthier way to manage bad feelings. Sometimes they like to manage this in a hospital so they can monitor the medication until you are used to it.

Just sending you to your grandmother isn't going to do much for you. If you have a counselor helping you talk to your parents, maybe you can have a goal in mind, "I want to get counseling but I want to stay home with you if I can while I get the counseling. I am willing to go to a hospital if that's what's best but I'd rather stay home and see a counselor over the summer."

Your parents may have some reactions to this that you don't like and you need to recognize that this will scare them, and just like you need them to understand your feelings, you also need to understand theirs. They may want you to stay away from some of your friends for a while, for example. That may not be bad advice - when we are behaving self-destructively, sometimes we do need space from even supportive people we are close to in order to have space to learn different ways to be.

Go to someone today. If you are out of school for the summer see if your community has a teen center or other program for youth. You can call them and find out if they can work with you. Or call your local hospital and ask if you can talk to a nurse.

Good luck to you.