[akanksha.sharma]

Hi, I am a brahmin girl and m in love with a guy who is also a hindu but somewhat lower caste. Both of us are well settled and want to get married. But our parents are very orthodox and are behaving as if we have committed a sin by loving each other. They are emotionally making us weak. We are not able to decide anything and we need suggestions. Please help.thanks

[leif_erikson]

I'm assuming that you're from India, one of the few places that still has a caste system. I don't want to sound too simple but I think that you guys should just live your lives and be together. Forget your parents' views on inter-caste marriages and toss that factor out of the equation as much as you possibly can.

The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant and it's what you do what the gift of life that determines who you are. Isn't that the reason why you love him? You love him for who he is and not for what social class he belongs to. I'm in a similar predicament. (with an Asian female) However, I just give some consideration to my family's opinions but ultimately go my own way.

Furthermore, if I were you, I'd get out of India (or move to a different part of the country where people aren't so intolerant) because I don't want to have any feelings of regret for being in love with someone who I'm comfortable with. You're the only person who can live your own life and you should keep it that way. Don't let your parents choose your greatest love for you. It won't be true love unless you're sure of him.

Sources: A guy who's expatriating to a place that's more tolerant of interracial marriages in the near future... Well, there are other reasons I'm leaving but those aren't relevant.

[question4321]

If the parents r orthodox its quoite difficult to convience thenm. But still if god helps then thr might be some miracal.god blees u.