[nbarone]

My wife and I have been married for 14 years, we are both healthy and used to make love 3 to 4 times a week, suddenly in Jan 09 she started working and we stopped having sex, this started 2 months after she started working, so the first 2 months I thought she was tired, after the 4th month I spoke to her about it and she just changed the subject, it has been 12 months now, she sells a cleaner system called Rainbow and she often goes out around 7 pm and comes back around 11 pm telling me she is giving a demo of what the system is about, because the system she sells costs around $2500 I think that it’s called Rexair in the USA, we have 2 kids but she has left us all for this, if she is making any money I haven’t seen it. I am sure she has a lover and I have told her so, she has told me no and that I am the love of her life, but still she goes out every day, then she decided to take this seminar were she goes to, on Friday at 6 and comes back at around 11 again at night, on Saturday from 9am till 11pm and Sunday again from 9am till around 7 pm, that is when the seminar does not go on all weekend, that is from Friday around 6 pm till Sunday around 7pm without coming back home to sleep at all, I asked her on several occasions if I have hurter or did something that hurt her but she tells me not at all, any advice?

[jmjoseph]

My wife and I have been married for 14 years, we are both healthy and used to make love 3 to 4 times a week, suddenly in Jan 09 she started working and we stopped having sex, this started 2 months after she started working, so the first 2 months I thought she was tired, after the 4th month I spoke to her about it and she just changed the subject, it has been 12 months now, she sells a cleaner system called Rainbow and she often goes out around 7 pm and comes back around 11 pm telling me she is giving a demo of what the system is about, because the system she sells costs around $2500 I think that it’s called Rexair in the USA, we have 2 kids but she has left us all for this, if she is making any money I haven’t seen it. I am sure she has a lover and I have told her so, she has told me no and that I am the love of her life, but still she goes out every day, then she decided to take this seminar were she goes to, on Friday at 6 and comes back at around 11 again at night, on Saturday from 9am till 11pm and Sunday again from 9am till around 7 pm, that is when the seminar does not go on all weekend, that is from Friday around 6 pm till Sunday around 7pm without coming back home to sleep at all, I asked her on several occasions if I have hurter or did something that hurt her but she tells me not at all, any advice?

What else do you have to prove your suspicions? I know, people don't usually sell carpet cleaners at 11:00 pm, but could it possibly be that SHE is trying to?

How old are the kids? And are you in need of extra cash, that's why she is starting to work? Or did this just come up?

[Jake2008]

Why don't you get a sitter, and surprise her by going along for a demonstration.

You may be right, and you may be wrong. Without any hard evidence, and with her denying everything you think she is doing, then you need to be more involved with where she goes, and what she does- to set your mind at ease.

She could be perfectly innocent here.

[nbarone]

What else do you have to prove your suspicions? I know, people don't usually sell carpet cleaners at 11:00 pm, but could it possibly be that SHE is trying to?

How old are the kids? And are you in need of extra cash, that's why she is starting to work? Or did this just come up?

Well, she has been distant from all of us, she answers her cell only a on rare ocations, the other we get sent to the answering system and sometimes she calls back,one kid is 10 the other 8, no we don't need extra money unless she wants to buy a Bugatty Veyron, we live in a wonderful home, the kids attend the best paid schools, as I wrote she started working 15 months ago.

Why don't you get a sitter, and surprise her by going along for a demonstration.

You may be right, and you may be wrong. Without any hard evidence, and with her denying everything you think she is doing, then you need to be more involved with where she goes, and what she does- to set your mind at ease.

She could be perfectly innocent here.

I tried going with her, the first 3 times she told me the client cancelled and the last to the client never showed. Then remember I can't take the kids along all the times, they got to shower, have dinner, and be in bed by 9pm because they got school.

[talaniman]

After all this time, she would have to show me a very fat check book, or quit.

[GracieCR21]

I would be very surprised
If your wife was innocently selling at those times, It all sounds very unusual to me.

If I were you I would do some digging and quiet detective work of your own. Be very careful but for the sake of your sanity you need to get to the bottom of what your wife is up to.

If you haven't seen her pay check, this would make me doubt she even had a job and fully support your theory of her having another lover.

Do some sneaky detective work