[closefriend29]

Am a guy. Am married.

I am high in passion, but my wife is often tired so no sex. This lead to numerous fights.
I met a married lady, was instantly attracted to her. We both fell in love with each other.
She has a happy marriage, good sex life too. But for her I am her soulmate.

For me too initially I was attracted sexually but I know now she's my soulmate.

I have stopped requesting sex to my wife - unless my wife asks for it.

The lady I love is far away. We can't have sex, or show our emotions. We have decided to stay married as her hubby is nice guy and she has kids. I too have a kid.
We will be the best of soulmates for each other.

I abstain sex with my wife unless she asks for it. My wife rarely asks for sex. But my sexual urge, passion is too high. How do I control it.

Bcos I love the lady - I have stopped mastrubation too, as I want to do all things only for the lady I love. I want to lie only for her.

Tell me how to control my urge and passion.

[Krs]

I think you seriously need to have a proper chat with your wife. Emotionally you are already cheating on your wife, very uncalled for.
COMMUNICATION is the key.

Have u asked why your wife why she is not into having sex?

[closefriend29]

Thanks, krs.

I are in this marriage only for the kid. We don't see eye to eye in anything.

Am just 32, wife is 30.

[Krs]

Im sorry to hear this :(

Have you tried marriage counseling? Maybe you need to re-kindle your live like the good old days.
Have you tried talking with your wife about your differences?

Does she feel the same way you do?

[closefriend29]

Now I actually hate her.

She has killed all my passion... one day at a time. In 3and half years of marriage we must have had sex twice a week initially. Now - ha ha - hadn't had for months. And she knows how desperate I am for sex - I can do it even 2-3 tims a day.

I don't to a prostitue just for the lady I love. She is the one who has kept me married - saying the right thing is to do your duty as a father

[Krs]

Yes you absolutely need to do your duty as a father, but you also need to consider your happiness and also your wife's happiness.

Have you talked to your wife? To be honest I don't think you have.

Most men always have a higher sex driver then women, my husband could have sex every day and I'm different, 1 week I could have it every day then come a week and I just do without.
Compromise, and communication.

YOUR WIFE NEEDS TO KNOW HOW U FEEL...

Maybe there is a hidden reason as to why she doesn't want sex, who knows if you don't ask her!! :cool:

[closefriend29]

She knows it all. I told her how much I need it.

Just for her, I stopped with her as she didn't want it - even promised - I will do it only when she wants it.

Every night I used to mastru / wank in bed - she doesn't even know it :(

I like oral, she doesn't.

Our act is mechanical - just a few minutes - 2-3 minutes

I am so upset trying to control my urge -that I feel like cutting my thing off - so that -there is no penis, no urge!

[Krs]

How long has this been going on?

[closefriend29]

3 months after marriage. Krs, I just am tired of life. I can't make love to the woman I love, the woman whom I leave with makes my life a nightmare.

Only on the hope of my love - I am living. I am actually living only for her - she is the epitome of pure love and compassion and ideals. Her love makes me do my duties of a father as she considers my son as her own.

[Krs]

I believe you should your wife know how you feel. Come to some agreement you can't carry on living like this.
Its not fair on you and neither on her.

[shanker5]

Go for the sex with the second and love with the first

[JudyKayTee]

go for the sex with the second and love with the first

This is from 2006 - once again, a one-time-wonder gets a user name, posts once, disappears.

Go figure.

[Enigma1999]

This is from 2006 - once again, a one-time-wonder gets a user name, posts once, disappears.

Go figure.

Not to mention, who in their right mind advises someone to engage in cheating?. oh wait... this guy!