[unsurelady]

My husband and I have been married for over 3 years now. During our 1st year together we had many compliactions and we separated for about 4 months. During that time my husband went to the Philippines to meet a woman he met on a internet porn site. In the beginning of last year me and my husband got back together and we had our ups and downs after I found out about his trip and how he maintained contact with some women he met. Eventually we worked through it and in December he got orders to japan and I stayed in the states. About a few weeks ago I found out that he made another trip to the Philippines and when I confronted him about it he told me that 2 weeks before he went he contacted the woman to confront her about money she took out of his account and she told him it was to support the child they had together! We both had a hard time believing that because my husband swore up and down that during his stay there he never had sex with the woman and only went to get away from our problems and the idea of us divorcing. He admitted to being intimate with her but never to the point of actual sex because he knew how he met her and he didn't want to catch anything. So he asked her how it could be his and she admitted to having sex with him when he was passed out drunk because she wanted to get pregnant so he couldn't leave her. She also told him that after me and my husband got back together she didn't want anything to do with him and wouldn't have told him but she was surprised he contacted her. So he went back to the Philippines and had tests done on the child, which he told me looks nothing like him, and were waiting on those results. We both have talked about what would happen after the results come and I told him that he wasn't responsible for it because she admitted to practically raping him and purposely getting pregnant to keep him for whatever benefits she thinks she would get. He told me he didn't want anything to do with her and he was still in disbelief because to this day he can't remember being with her sexually. I know I might be wrong in my feelings but I can't help but feel this way when some woman comes out and tries to take away this future me and my husband are working on, especially in the way she did. Im not sure what to ask besides some of your guidance and thoughts on this situation, I'm afraid she will try to ruin our lives by demanding he support her and I'm afraid that if the child is his what his response will be. I know he thinks of himself as a unwilling "sperm donor" but my husband can be so complicated mentally and even though he would never leave me for her I'm afraid he will try to use our money and send it to her or make more trips over there and try to be in their lives... your thoughts are welcome and I'm sure I will receive some criticism but I just need some people who can talk to me about our options.

[unsurelady]

Forget it. He left me for the other woman and now she is pregnant again.

[cdad]

Its within her right to seek child support from him if he is the father. That will have to be ironed out in a courtroom. Did he take a DNA test?