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0rphan · Feb 28, 2010, 12:41 PM

Your just going round the old track again and again... STOP DOING IT TO YOURSELF.

Everyone on this board is continuelly going over the same ground, telling you the same thing, but you are not listening.

What part of... LEAVE HER ALONE IS NOT CONNECTING!!

That means NO CONTACT.. NO TEXTING, NO WHEN OUT ON YOUR DAILY BUSINNESS SEEING WHO HAPPENS TO BE PARKED AT HER HOUSE...

You are detemined to keep yourself in this state of anxiety over a relationship that has well and truly finished.

Yes, we all fall in love, sometimes we get dumped on,but that's life, eventually we come to terms with it, it takes a while and the road is sometimes very painful but eventually we come through the other side and have learned many things from it.

I can warn you off this women like everyone else, but this has been over done to the extreme, now it's up to you to get a grip on your life and look forward instead of wallowing in the past.

There are many lovely people out there, with out the hang ups that this woman has, who will treat you with the love and respect that you are so crying out for, you do not have to put up with second best.

For your own peace of mind leave her alone and move on.

vanheart · Mar 1, 2010, 12:24 AM

Nice one. But when will you actually listen & act on it?
Are you getting it?

Don't confuse things, Sex is one thing. Pain is another.

alex0830 · Mar 1, 2010, 08:00 AM

I purchased a book at barnes and noble called obsessive lover when its too hard to let go. It basically describes me as an obsessive lover. Anyone know how to overcome this and what type of help I need. For some daaam reason this woman pops up in my head so much. I dreamed of her last night that she was so jealous she told me she loved me and that she was sorry. This feeling sucks.

amicon · Mar 1, 2010, 08:45 AM

I can't diagnose you over the internet,but address this in your therapy.

Remember,NC!

alex0830 · Mar 11, 2010, 11:32 AM

Guys its been almost 2 weeks since I stopped calling and txting this chick. The last time she called me we met up twice and within those to times this chick talked about this dude and how cool he is and that he respects her and hasn't got in her panties yet. "Yeah right" but man it feels hard I miss her so much I wish she could call and we can work some things out. I loved her very much. At points feeling come rushing and it feels like I want to look for her and get her back like the old days. It is beautiful out here in houston the sun is shining bright and all I can remember is all the fun crap we used to do during the summers. We took trips and enjoyed ourselved and now summertime is coming and she won't b around. I know you are going to say there's many women out there. But at this moment in time there is only one woman that I love and I can't have.

And I don't know what to do. I feel so lonely without her. I miss her much. I don't know how else to get her off my mind. I've been out on dates with this on girl but I don't find her appealing. May be because this other girl was a looker. I hang out with my friends and family but the emptyness is still there. What else can I do

CarrotTalker · Mar 11, 2010, 11:39 AM

Originally Posted by alex0830

What else can I do

Re-read this thread and look at everyone's advice!

amicon · Mar 11, 2010, 11:39 AM

Almost two weeks is good,well done!

So now you have moved on to the stage where you can mourn the death of the relationship,and that's normal.

It will become easier,as the days pass.

talaniman · Mar 11, 2010, 11:59 AM

Its been a rough two weeks for sure, and frankly it gets rougher, until you get to a point enough time, and feelings have passed, to make you feel you have turned the corner on actually coping with those feelings, and seeing a difference.

So be patient with yourself, this is normal in the process because your recognizing how hard it is, and how much work it is on your part. Don't be discouraged, and quit, then you have to start over, just hang in there, and keep going.

Fair warning though, trying to replace the hole in your soul with someone else will not work! Looking for what she made you feel is not going to work!

But if you just make friends to share good times with, male or female, you may be surprised to see that you feel better and paying attention in a friendly way, helps with that loneliness.

It's a long, slow, hard process, so expect to have a tough time, and just stay busy. Its like being down 10 points at halftime of a basketball game, you have to make adjustments to your game that give you the best chance to win, so make some adjustments that keep you focused on getting the life you want back, without her in it.