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ellie17 · Nov 23, 2006, 02:24 AM

:confused Im married and my husband was married to another lady about 13 years ago, she left him taking her then 3 month old dughter, brian has never had contact with them since but 12 years on he received a letter from the csa asking for money each week for the child, brian is now going to ask for contact with he's daughter as he is going to have to pay maintenance for her, he has never tried to contact them as at the time it was a nasty split and he was 19 years old and thiught it was best all round, will he be allowed to see the child or not help advise needed
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isabelle · Nov 23, 2006, 04:33 AM

He may be allowed to see his child but he will have to make up his past support and pay it in the future. In every case I have ever heard of, the father can see the child if support is paid.
For better advice you need to contact an attorney.

RichardBondMan · Nov 23, 2006, 05:28 AM

Two separate issues here, neither are related legally, but a father has the right to see his child... period... regardless of whether he is current or behind in child support payments. Of course, the visitation rights spelled out in the divorce are binding on both parents. However, she could make the father's life miseable by enforcing the agreement to pay child support.

s_cianci · Nov 23, 2006, 10:13 AM

Unless it can be shown that he'd be a danger to the child, Brian should be granted visitation rights if he asks for them.

LUNAGODDESS · Nov 23, 2006, 10:31 AM

First of all your man... knew he had a child and made no effort to contact the child for how many years too many... he now wants to punish the mother and the child... by allowing them to come into his presence... are you really married to this guy? You got to see your future in his action in this situation... he should and will receive visitation... regardless of the situation... unless the child is challenged by his presence... now... so things need to go slow... the courts will view him as what he is... regardless of how you feel about this man... there is no need to support bad behavior... tell he... you love him... his actions at that time were wrong... let him correct this problem... by first make arrangement for support... there is a payment plan... for men and women found in this situation... no one is looking to put anyone in prison on this issue... the preference is to pay child support for the care and the daily keeping of the child... get out this mode of protecting this suffering man... he brought this action on to himself and the child... if the mother is out of work and is need of support... the services she contacted will ask her where is the father and who is father... if they are going to give her any funds and health support... period... this is not an issue to call the end of the world too... get your husband to handle is responsibility and you... if you are upset over this issue... stay out of it... this situation and drama is between him, the mother and child... not the outsider... you were not there... so for your peace and for his peace... keep out of this... this is his drama... let him handle this drama...

ScottGem · Nov 23, 2006, 12:40 PM

I have to agree with Luna to a point here. It sounds like Brian is either trying to get out of the child support by asking for visitation or trying to extract a measure of revenge. In either case, this appears a selfish act with no concern for the child.

What not clear here is whether this is a new order for child support or an enforcement of an existing order. If the former, that's one thing. If the latter, shame on him for abandoning his child no matter what the circumstances.