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yoyo_yost · Feb 4, 2010, 03:06 PM

I'm 15, a Sophomore in High school. This question seems to go around a lot and I feel it's come to me. For about 2 years I've started to notice guys as much as girls. I've never had sex before... not yet... I sometimes fantisize about being with men. I HATE the idea of being bi, but I feel that is who I am... No one knows, to everyone I am straight, and I don't want to tell anyone. I've such a big deal out of gays and bi's before. I don't think I could take the ridiculing either. All my guy friends wouldn't talk to me anymore... it's not like I'm attracted to ALL of them! I need help!

jaime90 · Feb 4, 2010, 06:50 PM

It is normal at your age, to be a bit confused about your sexuality. Some 15 year olds have even taken to expirimenting with both sexes.

Bisexuality means that you are sexually attracted to both sexes. Noticing, being attracted to, and expirimenting with both sexes does not make you bisexual.

If you want to have sex with women AND men, you are bisexual.

A lot of kids at your age "claim" to be bisexual, but if you haven't had sex, you really can't know what your sexual preferences/orientation would be.

justcurious55 · Feb 4, 2010, 07:08 PM

There's nothing wrong with being gay or bi. But like jaime said, you're at a confusing age. You don't have to label yourself right now. Forget about labels completely for a while. There's no need to rush into dating. Everyone figures it out in their own time. And really, any friends that would stop being your friends because of your sexual orientation, were never really your friends to begin with.

neverme · Feb 4, 2010, 11:50 PM

Stop worrying. It will all come out in the wash, as my Granny said.

If you are bi you will know when the time is right. Like being gay, you can try to run from it but it will find you, if it's for you.

You don't need to make any decisions now.

You don't ever have to tell anyone, though I wouldn't recommend this if you do come to the conclusion that you are bi, it is a personal choice.

ChihuahuaMomma · Feb 5, 2010, 12:10 AM

I agree with everyone else here. We can't tell you if you are bi or not. And sometimes you can't push all the thoughts away, just be who you are. What's the need to label? Love is love, no matter the genders. Just be who you are and you will be happy.

GretaX · Feb 8, 2010, 05:10 PM

A lot of people wonder at some point in their life if they are bisexual, just because you fantasize about it doesn't mean you are. A lot of people are what some people call "bi curious" it doesn't make them bi. On the other hand you could just as easily be bisexual depending on how you feel towards men, its not wrong to find men attractive and still be straight. I would give it some time to consider, or look it up online. Lots of people question this and in time everyone discoveres who they really are.