[00dude]

I just wish there was a way for me to get over it because I know in my head I need to move on but in my heart I want it to be the way it was

[amicon]

The way to get over it is listening to your head-not your heart.
Your head knows it's time to let go.

[00dude]

You are correct but u cannot just drop yor feelings at the drop of a hat can you? Especially when it meant so muchto me

[amicon]

No but you need to give yourself the chance to move on-so now would be a good time to drop the hat.

I'm signing off now-if you are in the Brid I think you might be-go out and enjoy Saturday night- come back tomorrow. :-)

[00dude]

I am out tonight and will enjoy myself just wish I could do it more often you know. Thanks for your help by the way speak soon :)

[00dude]

How come I get affected by every little thing that happens to do with my ex? I feel like this pain is never going to go, why can't it just be how it was when I was happy

[amicon]

You must allow yourself to let go of the pain-find something to occupy your mind.
You will only stay stuck in the past for as long as you allow yourself to.

[00dude]

I don't understand how I'm allowing myself to be stuck in the past I want to move on but things keep hurting me and I can't do anything about it

[amicon]

But you can,whenever something hurtful comes up you go and do something that will change you mindset.

[00dude]

But when I'm at work how can I go do something different to change my mindset? She meant everything to me

[amicon]

What's your job like? Doesn't concentrating on work take your mind off things?

[00dude]

I'm good at my job and haven't been doing it for very long but I do get a lot of time to think about stuff

[amicon]

Have you thought about seeing a councilor-actually talking to someone face to face might be a good idea.

[00dude]

I would't know where to start in finding one and can't talk face to face because I always endup breaking down

[amicon]

A therapist is trained to handle that kind of situation.
Try Relate they have offices in many towns on the coast.

[00dude]

But don't they cost a lot of money? Plus I shouldn't be like this over one person they won't want to waste there time

[amicon]

You wouldn't be wasting anybody's time-and don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do.

Its OK to seek help you know.

I don't know how much they charge-sometimes these things are regulated according to your income.

I think they have an office where you live.

I know there is one in Scarborough.

[00dude]

Its been so long now though since it happened I feel trapped and like I should have forgot about her a long time ago if I ever was going to do it

[amicon]

A little over 3 months isn't all that long. People are different and heal in different ways.

It's a process which takes time and patience.
Keeping busy and setting goals help.

You'll get over it,it takes time,but you,too,will get through this.

[00dude]

U say it isn't that long but it didn't take her long to be with someone else and after all that I did for her