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    Jan 3, 2010, 10:08 PM
    Is it ultra-tacky to send out "Save The Date" 's before we're even engaged?
    Is it ultra-tacky to send out "save the dates" before we're even engaged?
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    Jan 3, 2010, 10:19 PM
    Yeah, get engaged then set the date before you send these out.
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    Jan 3, 2010, 11:23 PM

    Not only is it 'tacky,' it will just confuse people.

    Imagine getting this in the mail, "Please keep the afternoon of (random date), open. If/when he proposes to me, I want to have our wedding on this day."
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    Jan 4, 2010, 11:58 AM

    Don't forget to send one of these "save the date" cards to the future groom! I'm sure he'd like to know...
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    Jan 4, 2010, 03:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by leannemmartin View Post
    Is it ultra-tacky to send out "save the dates" before we're even engaged??
    Beyond ultra, it's Uber-tacky.

    Are you registered at Macy's already, too? BassMaster's?
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    Jan 4, 2010, 07:36 PM

    Yeah... Uber tacky. What are they saving the date for if there's no plan to marry? Engaged means you intend to get married. If you have set a date for the wedding, it would appear you are engaged. This is weird.
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    Jan 4, 2010, 07:43 PM

    Why would you send out announcements, invitations, or save-the-dates for a wedding in which the man hasn't even proposed?

    Tacky. Yes.
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    Jan 4, 2010, 07:48 PM

    It's not tacky... it's utter nonsense if you ask me. Is this to goad him into asking you or what? Makes no sense whatsoever to put the cart before the horse.
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    Jan 4, 2010, 07:53 PM

    How about a pre-baby shower? How about pre-graduation gifts for that child?

    How foolish will you feel if he's not ready, or even planning on staying a bachelor?

    Just keep your hope chest dusted off, but don't assume anything.
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    Jan 4, 2010, 08:07 PM

    You can't have a date set unless you are enganged, once you pick a date you basically are
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    Jan 4, 2010, 08:13 PM
    Is the groom even chosen yet? Is it for a blind date wedding?
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    Jan 5, 2010, 01:22 PM

    I thought there couldn't be anything tackier than putting registration information and requests for cash into a wedding invitation.

    Apparently, I was wrong.
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    Jan 5, 2010, 02:02 PM

    I went to a bridal shower and there were computer generator, generic thank you notes on each plate.

    This MIGHT be tackier than that.
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    Jan 5, 2010, 10:05 PM
    A while ago my Step daughter called to let us know that she was going to be getting engaged in a couple weeks:confused: I didn't get it, her Dad did, I think they are all weird:rolleyes:
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