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    Jan 1, 2010, 11:10 PM
    My best friend, whom I consider my brother, and his girlfriend
    I've known my best friend since I was 5, we're inseparable, I love this kid to death I mean it, I consider him my brother
    His girlfriend and him have een going out less than a month, and I like her a lot, she makes him happy and that makes me happy, and she's a really sweet girl, she helped me through my break up, and she is just a great person who has gone through a lot
    Now me and my "bff"(ugh) are crazy when we're together, we're like running mates if you know what I mean. Every thing we do we turn into a inside joke its great, but latley he's been trying to cheat on his girlfriend with this girl he's liked for a while, she moved away and occasionally visists, and he trusts me not to tell his girlfriend, I've got no idea what to do, if I tell her he'll be mad at me, she'll dump him, her feelings will be hurt, if I don't he gets away with cheating, she could find out on her own which is just as bad, If they break up it'll almost be like mommy and daddy gettingg a divorce, he's my bro, but she's a great friend
    I need some tips
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    Jan 1, 2010, 11:17 PM
    Okay where do your loyalties lie? With the guy you've known since you were 5 or the girl who's been with him a month?
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    Jan 1, 2010, 11:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Okay where do your loyalties lie? With the guy you've known since you were 5 or the girl who's been with him a month?
    Yeah but still, cheating is a skummy thing to do, when I've been cheated on, I didn't feel hate or anger towards the cheater, I fealt it tworards myself, it massacred myself asteem and I don't want that to happin to her, and I don't want my friend to be the kind of pric who does that stuff, I've told him over and over its not worth it, its selfish
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    Jan 1, 2010, 11:23 PM
    Then you need to talk to him about this or you will ruin your relationship with him if you tell her.
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    Jan 1, 2010, 11:25 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Then you need to talk to him about this or you will ruin your relationship with him if you tell her.
    Yeah, but he'll probubly bring up all the stupid crap I did when I was with my ex that he was keeping secret, but I'll try to talk to him
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    Jan 2, 2010, 12:40 AM

    Yeah I think you just need to talk to him, ask him how hed feel if someone he REALLY liked cheated on him...
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    Jan 2, 2010, 12:42 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by lovebird120 View Post
    yeah i think you just need to talk to him, ask him how hed feel if someone he REALLY liked cheated on him...
    He REALLY does like his girlfriend, he's just like me, an opertunist, but I'll talk to him
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    Jan 2, 2010, 12:45 AM

    No! If he is even CONSIDERING cheating on his girlfriend he doesn't REALLY like her... people who really like people and who really respect people don't CHEAT its just not how things work.
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    Jan 2, 2010, 12:48 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by lovebird120 View Post
    no! if he is even CONSIDERING cheating on his girlfriend he doesnt REALLY like her...people who really like people and who really respect people dont CHEAT its just not how things work.
    True
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    Jan 2, 2010, 12:50 AM

    Yes it is true. That's why I said it... haha :)
    You just need to straight forward tell him if he wants the other girl break up with his current girl because if he respects her and cares for her at all he shouldn't want to hurt her
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    Jan 2, 2010, 12:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by lovebird120 View Post
    yes it is true. thats why i said it...haha :)
    you just need to straight forward tell him if he wants the other girl break up with his current girl because if he respects her and cares for her at all he shouldnt want to hurt her
    OK, I will
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