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caitie · Dec 30, 2009, 09:44 AM

I lost my mum on the 9th of November to an very sudden asthma attack. We lived in the same town and used to catch up with each other nearly every day. She was my best mate and a really, really great mum.
I am only 24 and find that I'm only coping because it doesn't seem real and like a very bad nightmare that I'll wake up from one of these days and I'll have her back with me again. When will it start to feel real?
I haven't even started to imagine the upcoming milestone events in my life such as getting married and having children without her to support me.

Just Dahlia · Dec 30, 2009, 12:36 PM

I'm very sorry, it will take time.:(
Keep her in your thoughts always, don't pack her away. Remember always the wonderful things you did together and talked about. Keep talking about her:)

Do you still have your Papa?

jmjoseph · Dec 30, 2009, 01:02 PM

I lost my father 9 years ago from a sudden, massive, heart attack, and I know the pain you are in. It will get better with time, but in the meanwhile, do exactly what SHE would want you to do. I'm sure that it is especially hard this time of year. My father died decorating the Christmas tree, so I know about that too.

Celebrate her life, and love.

You take all the time you need to mourn your mother. But then go on with your life in the manner that she taught you.

Whenever you need to talk to someone, come here.

God bless you.

artlady · Dec 30, 2009, 01:14 PM

I know your pain and I am so sorry.

The pain never goes completely away but one day you will notice that you will be able to think of her and smile instead of cry.

Everyone is different and there is no timetable for grief.

For now,I would start a journal and talk to her in it.Tell her your feelings and I am sure ,knowing her as well as you do,you will almost be able to hear what her responses would be.
I found this very comforting after I lost my father.
Please know ,she would not want you to be overwhelmed with grief.
If you feel that the passage of time is not helping perhaps a bereavement group would help you through this transition.

Sometimes just talking about our loved ones is all we need to feel a little better.

Give yourself time my dear,the heart has an amazing ability to heal and you will get there.