[irock2006]

Here's what hapenned from A to Z.
I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 weeks now and he has always been an acquaintance of mine in the past.

So one morning I find a message from him. He says he's very upset about something. I text him "what is it" and he says this: "Am i not enough for u? the last thing i expected u to do is to have a pic of some guy i don't know in an album in FB. i'm very upset and i regret even looking at the album."

He was upset about me posting a pic of a friend of mine on FB.

I talk to him later. I explained that he is my friend and that there is nothing to worry about. He said " i looked at his profile and i don't like this guy at all."

"is it because he's emo?" I said. Then I continued " well he's not. it's the way he like to look".

I don't understand what he's flippin' about really. Is he jealous? Or is he the possessive type? I don't feel the same way about him after this had happened. I'm very uncomfortable and it doesn't help that he explains his behavior is because he loves me and cares about me.


I'm not sure what to do. It's either he's posessive or he's insecure and feels threatened by the other guy.

I don't know lol. Help?

[Jake2008]

When you go from friend to couple, you will see a different side of him. There seems to have been a better friendship than what you have now- immaturity, unfounded suspicion, and misplaced jealousy.

You are right to question the connection between his words and their meaning, when he says that he loves and cares about you. Love is not what he's showing in my opinion.

Trust your instinct. If it doesn't feel right, and the relationship being so new, maybe proceed with caution.

He could be insecure, unsure of himself, and hasn't learned the art of trusting you enough to say how he's feeling, so he instead finds a 'reason' for it.

Jealousy can put the boots to a relationship faster than lightening, just be careful.

[slapshot_oi]

Hmm... you after six weeks it's a bit much to vocalize jealousy of friends, I'd be uncomfortable too. I'm certain this is just a taste of what is to come.

[jaime90]

Men and women can get extremely jealous and posessive. I don't think testosterone is the cause. It's ridiculous for this guy to do this to you. He's clearly overreacting. If you continue a relationship with him, there's a good chance that he will end up demanding passwords from you, and/or making you get rid of all your other guy friends, which is not right- it's controlling. This is a BIG red flag, especially if you're only 6 weeks in. I would consider moving onto a guy that you actually deserve, and who doesn't treat you this way.

[bswc]

I'd say its jealousy, and insecurities. Mark this, its HIM, not you. Give him all the reasons to trust you, and tell him about it. If he's possessive, keep apart from Facebook might be a good idea.

Nonetheless, he needs to work on his problems with your support to make this relationship work.