[annette88]

This seems a simple question-am l reading too much into it? L ended my two and a half yr relationship two weeks ago with immediate no contact but every few days he texts me saying l miss u babe! Why is he doing this?

[ROLCAM]

Possibly "revenge" to get under your skin.

It is up to you to respond or ignore.

If I may say so, JUST IGNORE.

[annette88]

L never even thought of that but you may well be right. I suppose l was being overly romantic and thinking that maybe he was being genuine and realising what he had lost!

[amicon]

He might be missing you but you ended it and sticking to NC and ignoring him will stop your confusion.

[annette88]

Yes you both are right. The problem is l still love him but we just aren't compatible so even though l never text first when he says that l end up saying l miss him too! L hate this mess

[amicon]

Congratulations for having realised that incompatibility is a reason for not staying together.
Missing someone is normal and you ll get over those feelings with time.
Don't let him get to you and ignore the texts.

[Ithappenstoall]

YOu should also understand that he is hurt and that he still has feelings for you... You will know in your gut what feels right to do, either to discuss the situation with him or not to contact him

[Romefalls19]

Ignore it, you are only allowing him to cause you confusion. Just think, if you have this much confusion over one text, what about a conversation?

[annette88]

Thank you to everyone for replying-all of it is food for thought. I had many text messages off him yesterday claiming he couldn't live without me.. still loves me etc. I did not respond and so today nothing. It hurts like hell though!

[amicon]

With time and by keeping yourself busy you ll get over the hurt.

[annette88]

Well just an update. Its been two days and l haven't heard a word so l guess he has given up. I know that not hearing from him will help to heal me but l feel horrendously sad. Has anyone got any suggestions how to stop the what ifs and really start remembering the bad times-l try but my heart over-rules my brain and all l have are the happy ever after scenarios! Thanks again to you all for keeping me strong

[I wish]

If you're still confused, it means you're not done healing. Just focus on yourself. Don't over-analyze why he does or doesn't look for you.

[Enigma1999]

Hello Annette,

You are human, it's natural to feel this pain, and it will take time to get over it.

I gree with I wish, you need to focus on yourself. Stop over analyzeing ever little thing. Stop looking at your phone every second and go do something productive, that will take your mind off this. Staying busy with friends, activities, and such will also help you out.

Good luck.

[Jayjay027]

Go out!
Go out with your friends, or anyone, and leave your phone at home. You'll be surprised at how invigorating it is to not be checking your phone every 2 minutes.

[talaniman]

Read the stickies at the beginning of this forum. A lot of people have been in your situation, and you could benefit from their insights.

[annette88]

Jayjay027 you are so right-l do it less now but checking your phone is a real pain and just keeps you in that mindset. Dating and breaking up must have been simpler years ago!

[I wish]

but checking your phone is a real pain and just keeps you in that mindset

Time to change your number to help you with the healing process.

[annette88]

L have thought of that but for some reason the very idea scares me. L know that if l did it would eliminate any chance of hearing from and that would be good for me but lm not ready and yes l know that's dumb!

[amicon]

Changing your number as I wish suggests is a great idea.
It ll help you move forward a lot quicker. Good luck.

[annette88]

Thinking about it l realise changing my number is what l must do-for ME! His words are cheap-action speaks louder and as he lived here for over a year he knows where to find me. Thank you all x