[esmuk01]

Hello,
Well this is the 2nd day I've been using this site. I feel like this site is helping me through. Well I want to post something for the first time, please read, and comment, I seriously need help with this.

Okay, well my ex boyfriend and I have been dating for 17 months. We fought somewhat a lot, but we had a lot of good times to make up for it. He lived with me when we were in our relationship for 3 months. Recently, we've been fighting a lot, but I thought everything was okay. So about 2 weeks, he went to his moms because of a fight. I called him the next day, crying and asking him to come over. He said he was sorry for the fight but didn't feel like coming over because he had work really early the next day. All of a sudden, he turned his phone off for no reason. I called him, and left voice mails, but his phone was still off. I went there the next day to see what's up, as soon as I got there, he asked why I was there, so I left right after that, walked off crying actually. So a few days later his friend came to get some of his things. Than, that night I called him, but he had changed his number. So, I left him alone for the weekend. I wrote him a very long email, but he has not read it yet. So, that Monday, his friend asked to come get the rest of his clothes, so I pretty much broke down, didn't even know what was happening anymore. So, I did something stupid, I went back to his moms, but he wasn't there, he went to the mall with his friend. So, I went home crying, making the same mistake that I did. So, now I haven't talked to him, since the night he turned his phone off. So, how should I get over this, and how do I get him back without calling him, because a lot of people told me to not call him at all. I really want this to work, I want to get him back, I can't even describe the pain that I have been in these past two weeks. So please comment, help me through this, and give tips on what I should do to get him back, and how to feel better through this break up. Thanks so much guys, please comment! Emily

[itried]

There's really only one way to get over a breakup, and that is to avoid each other while your emotions settle down somewhat. When a breakup is fresh and the wounds are newly opened we can do things that can be out of character. When we do these things we end up pushing the other person away farther than we can imagine.

What's important for you to know is that EVERYONE thinks these crazy thoughts after a breakup, but the important thing is that we try our hardest to NOT act on them. The best thing, and I'm sure everyone will agree with me, is to avoid all contact until you can sort your head out (him as well). Take time to work on yourself, see the world and the relationship through new eyes and take it day by day.

[talaniman]

Its tough to get dumped for any reason. But take the hint as he wants nothing to do with you and stop trying to get him back.

Please read the stickies at the beginning of this forum, to learn what to do to get through this situation.