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    Nov 18, 2009, 08:01 AM
    When to ask his kids to stand up
    Our engagement party is a week away. My first wedding his second. We are having only family at the wedding. We would like his kids to stand up for us. I would like to ask them in private ,he wants to ask at the party. Any thoughts. His kids are happy for us so I am pretty sure they will be delighted.
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    Nov 18, 2009, 08:36 AM

    I think it's bad form to put people on the spot by asking them to commit to something like this in public - even if they're "delighted," it can be over-whelming to have to respond immediately and in public. And so may not relaize what this is about. This is like asking someone to be a bridesmaid or usher - much better to talk to the person in private. And this is especially so if the kids are relatively young.
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    Nov 18, 2009, 10:34 AM

    When I asked my cousin to stand up for me, I made her a funny card and asked her privately.

    Perhaps you could ask in private, and assuming they say yes, announce it at the engagement party. That'll be a nice way of bringing them into focus at the party as well.

    Good luck and Congrats!
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    Nov 29, 2009, 07:17 AM

    The party went great. Families got along great. Kids had a good time. We asked the kids after the party in private to stand up. They both were very excited and said yes. They can not wait.
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