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dreamyeyez · Nov 15, 2009, 10:35 AM

I started this job a month ago, and there is this girl who always stares at me in a strange way... last night I stared back at her and she says something to her friend.. my intuition is telling me she does not like me for some reason but I have never done anything to anyone in this new offic or any office that matter.. how should I deal with this uncomfortable situation??

excon · Nov 15, 2009, 10:38 AM

Originally Posted by dreamyeyez

how should i deal with this uncomfortable situation???

Hello dreamyeyez:

Mind your own business and don't stare back. If they DO anything other than look at you, come back and ask again.

excon

dreamyeyez · Nov 15, 2009, 10:40 AM

OK.thanks

xcarleex · Nov 15, 2009, 11:10 AM

I would say the opposite,
If it is making you feel that uncomfertable then confront her,
She may not have a problem you could just be paranoid!
At least then you know whether she has got a problem.

talaniman · Nov 21, 2009, 10:35 AM

Ignore the personal drama at work, and keep your focus on your job.

Silverfoxkit · Nov 21, 2009, 10:48 AM

Try and not stress it as long as she does not do anything to hurt you or your job position in any way.

In fact you might even try going a step farther and strike a friendly conversation. It might be all a misunderstanding. You said yourself you stared back. Perhaps she thinks you are the one giving her strange stares! Perhaps she may even be attracted to you if you do not know her sexual orientation. I would just try and not jump to any conclusions.

lady01686 · Nov 21, 2009, 11:18 PM

I agree with talaniman ignore the drama... just be the bigger person, be as nice to her as you would want her to be to you...

zippit · Nov 21, 2009, 11:28 PM

.what ex said

Gemini54 · Nov 22, 2009, 12:29 AM

Why don't you invite her to have a coffee with you? Surely friendship is preferable?

She may be short sighted and not even be able to see you. Or she may be able to see you and you had spinach between your teeth. Who knows?

Anyway what's the point of creating drama? Create friendship instead.

phlanx · Nov 22, 2009, 12:42 AM

People who are not friendly to others, especially when you are the one in a new and strange environment, an experience all humans have from time to time, you really need to ask yourself one question

Does this person know me?

Of course they don't, so they are being mean to you through some strange paranoid thought of their own

Basically in this stuation I would say, this person feels threatened by you, and as such has decided in their own weird way to show you this fear, instead of being mature and walking over and making you feel welcome

Just ignore them as the immature idiots they are

"An office is no longer a cave but it is no less inhospitable"

dreamyeyez · Nov 26, 2009, 08:22 AM

Thanks for the advice guys

Klaipeda · Nov 28, 2009, 08:28 AM

Originally Posted by dreamyeyez

I started this job a month ago, and there is this girl who always stares at me in a strange way....last night i stared back at her and she says something to her friend..my intuition is telling me she does not like me for some reason but i have never done anything to anyone in this new offic or any office that matter..how should i deal with this uncomfortable situation???

Can you talk to her? Maybe do not ask directly 'what is wrong with you honey?' but try to speak to her about small things and get an idea what she is up to. As small talk progresses she will relax and will open up sooner or later eventually for you to get an idea whay she behaves like that. Good luck!

jmjoseph · Nov 28, 2009, 08:36 AM

The only way that you would know that she is staring at you is to look at her too. That, or have someone tell you. But what I would if I were you, is to ignore her in the most extreme way. I mean to treat her as she is invisible, not even there.

It bothers you only because you let it.

If she is doing something other than staring at you, like excon mentioned , come back and tell us.

Chances are that she is jealous of you for some reason.

The world is full of all types of people, and God knows that we can't all get along because of these differences.

Enjoy your new job, and carry on with dignity.

Make sure that you do not stoop down to her level.

excon · Nov 28, 2009, 08:56 AM

Originally Posted by jmjoseph

Make sure that you do not stoop down to her level.

Hello again, d

I couldn't agree more with my friend jm.

There are some segments of society that view eye contact as an invitation for social interaction.. Others view it as a threat. To those that see it as a threat, you're not going to change their mind by being friendly. You only make yourself more vulnerable.

excon

jmjoseph · Nov 28, 2009, 09:11 AM

Originally Posted by excon

Hello again, d

I couldn't agree more with my friend jm.

There are some segments of society that view eye contact as an invitation for social interaction.. Others view it as a threat. To those that see it as a threat, you're not going to change their mind by being friendly. You only make yourself more vulnerable.

excon

Yes, many animals do not like being stared at. I know my dog, Joe, doesn't like it at all. It makes him anxious, and nervous, I guess.

He very well may view it as threatening. The same with most humans. I feel the same way when someone gives me the "evil eye". It makes me want to ask them "what's up?"

But I don't, and just carry on. The fact is, that some people are crazy, and you don't want to confront them.

If you find yourself locking eyes with her, just give a little smile, and look away.

Just think to yourself, "Boy, I sure am glad I am the normal one".

dreamyeyez · Dec 27, 2009, 04:14 PM

Thanks guys for your advice