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    mom3939 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 6, 2009, 10:52 AM
    Daughter coming home from college every weekend
    My daughter started as a freshman at college about 2 hours away in September. She appears to be quite happy there. However, she feels the need to come home at least every other weekend, sometimes every weekend. I don't think this is good for her. She does have a serious boyfriend who is a senior in high school here but he is happy to go out there to see her which he does sometimes. She is homesick some but she also seems happy. She claims by the end of the week she needs a break from her roommate and dorm room and wants to come home to rejuvenate. Is this healthy and should I be upset about it? I don't want to refuse to let her come home as we love her and want her to be happy. But I just don't think it's a good idea. I want her to settle in more on the weekends and not have the hassle of her going back and forth. I ove her and want to see her but this doesn't seem right to me.l
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    Nov 6, 2009, 11:00 AM

    Hello, it's a big adjustment for her,and as she gets older trips home will become less frequent,if she is a home bird,she most likely misses you and just that feeling of home... you her mother is home for her.

    Also,there may be more going on at college and with her room mates then she is letting on,and she just might NEED somewhere to escape to at the weekends...
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    Nov 6, 2009, 11:01 AM
    You should be very happy that your daughter wants to come home. I know I would feel rejected if my daughter were only 2 hours away and did NOT want to come home on the weekends.
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    Nov 6, 2009, 02:00 PM
    Wow thinking about it like that really helps! Were VERY close and I can understand her need for transition time. There is another thing though. Sometimes she comes "home" but stays at her boyfriend's house. This gets me really upset. But my husband says if she was visiting him at his college (he is a senior in hgh school still) it wouldn't bother you so much. But to me its not the same as he is going to his home and it makes me feel bad. I can't forbid it as I have absolutely no say in it but I just don't like it... What do I do about that?
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    Nov 6, 2009, 02:02 PM

    I meant to say... But to me its not the same as she is going to his home and it makes me feel bad
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