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    emmax40 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 4, 2009, 05:39 AM
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    :confused: Hi guys! my problem is a bit confusing to me, I broke up with my girlfriend after a year, it happens that we are in the same class with this girl at college, I see her almost everyday but we never talk much. I think I still love her since just yesterday she called me to help her with something but when I got there we ended up kissing, but we never tell each other that we still have those feeling for each other.

    I feel scared when I think about our relationship, whether to take her back or not, I really fear to be hurt again, because she left me for other guys without any reason.

    I'm really stuck in two worlds of taking her back or not, and who should make a move between me and him.
    Need help on this
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    Nov 4, 2009, 09:23 AM
    Don't think of getting back with her-she s already hurt you once by leaving you for other guys. No point in risking more heartbreak.
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    Nov 4, 2009, 11:34 AM

    I'd move on. To quote you, "I feel scared when i think about our relationship, whether to take her back or not, I really fear to be hurt again, because she left me for other guys without any reason."

    First you have no relationship. Second, by being there and pining for her each time it sends the message that you except her disrespect and cheating ways and will continue to do so. Third, she did it before. You allowed it without repercussions, therefore she'll do it again as soon as a man presents a challenge.

    Seriously dude… I know you're hurt and alone but think with your brain not your ding ding.
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    Nov 4, 2009, 06:39 PM

    Leave her alone buddy, especially her lips.
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    Nov 4, 2009, 06:52 PM

    Now here I guess is where I am different than most people. If someone make syou feel special, in love, whatever you call it. Isn't it worth the risk of haert-break? Yes, she's hurt you once but your feelings for her haven't changed and you still want her. ( I know you do because if you didn't you wouldn't have posted anything). It's up to to make a decision is the feelings you have for her worth another heartbreak? Can you believe her if she says she'll change?

    I am not saying go for her I am just laying all your options on the line because I realize that all people are different and while most people on this forum will advise you to stay away, I advise you to weigh your options with your feelings and your feelings of risking heartbreak.

    Only you know what's best for you. Only you can make this decision in the end. I just want to make sure you've wrapped your head around everythin you could before making this decision.

    On a more personal note, when you say left you for other guys. What do you mean?

    Rick
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    Nov 5, 2009, 01:33 AM

    The key here is to know whether she has changed or not. If inside she is the same person that will leave you again for no apparent reason for someone else... than stay away my friend, it would only cause you more heartache
    But if you truly believe that she has changed than I would think of the possibility to start things again. Sometimes people need a good kick in the tush to wake up

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