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wilma2 · Oct 27, 2009, 01:11 PM

Hi ,
Please help ,I want to be best friends with my manager more than anything .
I'm a working mother of three,I ve been working with my female manager for more than 2 years now,every now and then I think of the two of us being best friends ,I get thrilled just from the thought.
I'm a hard worker and will apply whatever you tell me to do.
Please tell me a scheduled plan to go through to win her
You can ask me anything about us that would matter to your answer

adam_89 · Oct 27, 2009, 01:16 PM

Ok, have you started by asking if she wants to grab a drink after work or something or go shopping or something like that? I think that would be good for starters.

Just Looking · Oct 27, 2009, 01:32 PM

It's not really a good idea for managers to become close friends with the employees they supervise. They can be social but they need to socialize with everyone, not show favorites. The productivity of the other employees would suffer.

wilma2 · Oct 27, 2009, 01:41 PM

Originally Posted by adam_89

Ok, have you started by asking if she wants to grab a drink after work or something or go shopping or something like that? I think that would be good for starters.

I'm just afraid of refusal,I hate being clingy, I want her to be the one to die to best friend me

adam_89 · Oct 27, 2009, 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by wilma2

im just afraid of refusal,i hate being clingy, i want her to be the one to die to bestfriend me

You will just have to wait and see. You could try and suck up. Take into thought what Justlooking just said as well.

wilma2 · Oct 27, 2009, 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by Just Looking

It's not really a good idea for managers to become close friends with the employees they supervise. They can be social but they need to socialize with everyone, not show favorites. The productivity of the other employees would suffer.

I wouldn't want anybody around to realize us being close she is the only one that matters to me

wilma2 · Oct 27, 2009, 01:44 PM

Originally Posted by adam_89

You will just have to wait and see. You could try and suck up. Take into thought what Justlooking just said as well.

I can't get u how try and suck up

Just Looking · Oct 27, 2009, 01:45 PM

Originally Posted by wilma2

i wouldnt want anybody around to realize us being close she is the only one that matters to me

I'm sorry, but you have to think of this from her viewpoint. As a manager, she would be risking too much to do what you are asking.

Alty · Oct 27, 2009, 02:00 PM

I want to be best friends with my manager more than anything .

It's not always about what you want. As your manager it would not be in her best interest to be best friends with you. She's your manager, your working relationship would suffer.

I'm a working mother of three,I ve been working with my female manager for more than 2 years now,every now and then I think of the two of us being best friends ,I get thrilled just from the thought.

This sounds a bit obsessive. Do you have other friends?

Please tell me a scheduled plan to go through to win her

There is no "scheduled plan" to befriending someone. Just be nice, maybe ask her to go out to a movie or come over for dinner or drinks. If she responds then go from there, but keep in mind that this could have negative effects on your employment.

Good luck.

talaniman · Oct 27, 2009, 02:55 PM

Being friends is a mutual thing that develops naturally. Not something you plan, or have to work toward. You can't make someone your friend just because you like them. They have to be as willing as you are and considering she is your boss, that could be terrible if she had to fire you or change something to accommodate you. Get trying to force someone to be your friend out of your head.