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LJDK · Oct 13, 2009, 07:13 AM

Hi.

This is a question in general and not directly related to my previous personal issues.

Do you feel it is OK for a gay person to kiss your boyfriend or girlfriend that is the opposite sex of them?

For instance a gay man kissing your girlfriend or a gay women kissing your boyfriend?
My opinion is that it is not acceptable.

But to put it into context it is hello kisses and goodbye kisses.

I wish · Oct 13, 2009, 07:23 AM

I think you need to ask yourself, would it bother you if a straight person did the same thing?

kctiger · Oct 13, 2009, 07:31 AM

What do you mean by kiss? Like a peck on the lips or cheek or full out tongue? In some societies it is actually customary to kiss while saying hello or goodbye.

talaniman · Oct 13, 2009, 07:31 AM

If its just a greeting, or a good bye, what's the big deal? I would think it would be more my partners choice than mine.

What difference does it make if the kisser is gay?

LJDK · Oct 13, 2009, 07:38 AM

It's a lip kiss... no tongue but no peck on the lips either.
Its not customary in our culture here unless it is family.
The difference of gay or straight being that people will argue that they are gay so its OK.

kctiger · Oct 13, 2009, 07:43 AM

I would have to actually see it occur to make a logical answer here. If it is just to say hello or goodbye I am sure I wouldn't find a problem with it... unless it was inappropriate.

I don't care if it is a gay guy that kissed my girlfriend or not. If you don't like other guys kissing your girlfriend I hardly doubt it will make a difference what that person's sexual orientation is.

LJDK · Oct 13, 2009, 07:46 AM

I concur with the statement If you don't like other guys kissing your girlfriend I hardly doubt it will make a difference what that person's sexual orientation is.

But like I said, if you confront someone about it they might say its OK because their gay.

Well truth is, it's a small kiss, like a saying hello kiss. So I guess its not really that bad, but still it goes against my morals and I find it displeasing.

none12345 · Oct 13, 2009, 09:24 AM

Lips kissing is unacceptable to me. Kissing of the lips is very sacred and it shouldn't be done with anyone except your lover. I would sit down and have a talk with her.

shazamataz · Oct 13, 2009, 11:20 AM

I'm the opposite to everyone else...

If a straight girl kissed my partner I would not be happy.

If a lesbian woman kissed my partner I wouldn't care.

Why?

Because there is no way that a lesbian woman would have any sexual feeling behind the kiss, a straight woman might (even if she denies it or thinks she would not before the kiss)

Edit: just read xoxo's answer, well yes there is no need to be kissing on the lips but I am speaking hypothetically.

none12345 · Oct 13, 2009, 11:28 AM

Originally Posted by shazamataz

I'm the opposite to everyone else...

If a straight girl kissed my partner I would not be happy.

If a lesbian woman kissed my partner I wouldn't care.

Why?

Because there is no way that a lesbian woman would have any sexual feeling behind the kiss, a straight woman might (even if she denies it or thinks she would not before the kiss)

edit: just read xoxo's answer, well yes there is no need to be kissing on the lips but I am speaking hypothetically.

Hey Shazy have you considered that there are many people who claims to be "lesbian" to have some action and exceptions? Just a thought.

Catsmine · Oct 13, 2009, 12:29 PM

I'm a huggy touchy kind of guy.

Hugs and pecks, no problem.
A playful caress, even, no problem.

Lips - BIG problem.
Not only are lips defined as erogenous zones by most societies, liplocks can exchange bodily fluids. It's an insignificant disease vector, but the possibility exists.

shazamataz · Oct 13, 2009, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by none12345

Hey Shazy have you considered that there are many people who claims to be "lesbian" to have some action and exceptions? Just a thought.

True, but again, in this hypothetical world we KNOW that the other person is gay.
Let's say we put them on a lie detector machine ;)

For me it's more of a jealousy standpoint, I'm to jealous to have a straight person kiss my partner but if they are gay then there's no reason to be jealous.

Has anyone here ever played spin the bottle?

Catsmine · Oct 13, 2009, 12:46 PM

Originally Posted by shazamataz

Has anyone here ever played spin the bottle?

Not for just a kiss.

Cat1864 · Oct 13, 2009, 12:59 PM

Originally Posted by LJDK

I concur with the statement If you don't like other guys kissing your girlfriend I hardly doubt it will make a difference what that person's sexual orientation is.

But like i said, if you confront someone about it they might say its ok because their gay.

Well truth is, its a small kiss, like a saying hello kiss. So i guess its not really that bad, but still it goes against my morals and i find it displeasing.

Who are you trying to convince it is wrong? Most of the time a hypothetical question is raised, it really isn't hypothetical as this post shows.

If it is against your morals and displeasing to you, discuss it with your mate. In a healthy relationship, you should have close to the same moral foundation. If you don't and can't compromise by talking about it, then maybe there is something else going on that needs addressing.

As for kissing (on the lips) someone who is not my mate, that is something that I never consider even as a hello/goodbye gesture. I have never thought about if he would or not because I trust him and his judgment.