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vintagedoll1940 · Oct 10, 2009, 01:07 PM

:(So I have been crushing on this guy from my gym class I know his friend. So I told his friend.His friend had informed me that the guy tought I was very atractive so I got the courage to send him an instant messege trough aim but when I did he seemed to no be interested in me he did mention that we should talk in gym class to make things easier for the both of us.So that Monday in gym he came up to me and gave me his hand introducing himself and asking me my name and etc.We took the train together that day and the next day we rode the train together and he kissed me and when he said good bye because his stop was up he kissed me good bye on the lips.(note) during the ride home we talked about what we wanted and that it would just be fun and not serious but he said if I wanted it to be serious he would do it but I added that I didn't want anithing serious.He said he would still like to hang out and take me out on dates.The rest of the week was comfusing he said I never look at him in the eyes and I'm to shy and when he would see me in the hall ways he would just hug me and kiss me on the cheeks in a more friendlier way then he did be four its only been a week and I seem to be stressing him a lot.He is on line at the moment and he has not said a word to me and he didn't go to gym class the last two days of the week even tough I saw during the day.Is he still interested in me?

heavensangel18 · Oct 10, 2009, 04:36 PM

I think that you should talk to him, and see what's up. And stop avoiding him. It seems like he likes you, he might be backing off, if it looks like your trying to stay away from him

vintagedoll1940 · Oct 11, 2009, 08:57 PM

:(sooo comfused right now...

So I had posted be four a story about a boy I've been crushing on so today I got the courage to I'm him and here is how things went...

Me (7:21:40 PM): hey cute stuff
Him (7:22:03 PM): lol hey
Me (7:22:12 PM): wats up
Him (7:22:29 PM): nothing chillin in my house
Him (7:22:32 PM): u
Me (7:22:39 PM): same sicky with the swiny
Me (7:22:40 PM): lmaoo
Me (7:22:41 PM): jk
Him (7:22:51 PM): lol
Me (7:23:10 PM): its OK if I I'm u right
Him (7:23:57 PM): yea
Me (7:24:14 PM): OK because you know you stopped talking to me
Him (7:24:19 PM): I didn't
Him (7:24:28 PM): I don't know what to say
Him (7:28:26 PM):??
Him (7:28:27 PM): yo peace
Me(7:28:33 PM): ummm
Me (7:28:42 PM): u don't know what to say to me
Him (7:29:17 PM): nah
Him (7:29:38 PM): I stumble or don't now what to talk about
Me (7:29:47 PM): is that bad
Me (7:29:54 PM): lol
Me (7:29:58 PM): I'm comfused
Him (7:30:00 PM): I don't know
Him (7:30:07 PM): I don't think so
Me (7:30:12 PM): wow
Me (7:30:14 PM): okay
Me (7:30:28 PM): well iidk then do you think I'm bothering u
Him (7:30:39 PM): omg no
Him (7:30:57 PM): damn I sayed I don't know what to say
Me (7:31:07 PM): lol you sound like max now(max his friend)
Him (7:31:17 PM): omg
Him (7:31:32 PM): well ima talk to you later
Him (7:31:35 PM): ima out
Me (7:31:50 PM): ummm okay I gess
Him (7:31:56 PM): sleep
Me (7:32:05 PM): I'm not sleepy
Him (7:32:20 PM): but I am I woke up at 8
Me (7:32:28 PM): okayy
Me (7:32:35 PM): good nightt
Me (7:32:37 PM): sleep tight
Him (7:32:57 PM): iiiii what you doing 2 morrow
Him (7:32:59 PM): early
Me (7:33:10 PM): me?
Him (7:33:21 PM): no you
Me (7:33:29 PM): your rude
Him (7:33:32 PM): lol
Him (7:33:34 PM): yes u
Me (7:33:35 PM): I'm going to soho
Him (7:33:46 PM): ooooo iiii
Him (7:33:53 PM): I was there today
Me (7:33:57 PM): shopping?
Him (7:34:11 PM): buy me something
Him (7:34:14 PM): lol
Him(7:34:20 PM): I'm a small
Him (7:34:22 PM): lol jp
Me (7:34:27 PM): okay
Me (7:34:30 PM): can I aks you something
Him (7:34:34 PM): yeaaa
Me (7:34:44 PM): is it just me or do you come off rude on aim
Him (7:34:56 PM): nah its u
Me (7:35:01 PM): -_-
Me (7:35:11 PM): u just seem nicer in persone
Him (7:35:13 PM): well I don't know what I'm doing
Him (7:35:19 PM): to be rude
Me (7:35:28 PM): at first you were being rude
Him (7:35:32 PM): how
Me (7:35:47 PM): u said omg like omg..
Him (7:36:11 PM): um no I didn't mean it like that
Him(7:36:22 PM): I meant it with a smile
Me (7:36:29 PM): ohh
Me (7:36:36 PM): well you know there something I want to tell u
Me (7:36:38 PM): but then I don't
Him (7:36:45 PM): tell me
Me (7:36:48 PM): -_-
Me (7:36:59 PM): what happened to you?
Me (7:37:00 PM): lol
Him (7:37:21 PM): what you mean
Me (7:37:31 PM): that time on the train you were so nice
Me (7:37:36 PM): and you know I had fun
Me (7:37:47 PM): after that day you just like w.e
Him (7:38:09 PM): because to tell you the truth I don't like shy people
Him (7:38:46 PM): but I have to get used to it
Me (7:38:58 PM): hey as long as your honest
Me (7:39:33 PM): but can I be honest to I just think your really cute
Him(7:39:41 PM): yea
Him (7:40:25 PM): well thanks
Me (7:40:31 PM): yea..
Him (7:40:35 PM): u to
Me (7:40:40 PM): thanks
Me (7:45:02 PM): so you like stopped talking to me because I'm shy?
Him (7:45:13 PM): no
Him (7:45:48 PM): yo ima go
Him (7:45:56 PM): so tired
Me (7:46:10 PM): OK
Him (7:46:13 PM): bye
Me (7:46:14 PM): good night
Him(7:46:18 PM): u tp
Him (7:46:19 PM): to

What do you guys think about this conversation(I would prefer a guys opinion... but girls opinions are also important to me.. anii one who can guide me right now because I'm comfused the guy seemed to like me at first should I back off ?

jaime90 · Oct 12, 2009, 09:43 AM

I don't think he's seriously interested, otherwise he wouldn't have come up with the "I don't like shy people" excuse, and then tell you later on that it's not the reason that he stopped talking to you. On top of that- he ends the conversation- not giving you a reason as to why he stopped talking to you. By telling him what you thought of him, you opened the conversation for him to tell you his feelings too- and he didn't, if a guy likes a girl enough to start a serious relationship with her I'm sure he would've said a little something. I would've push it with this guy, I'm sure you want something serious, and if he doesn't then don't bother- if it happens between you two then it does, but right now he doesn't seem that into you.

vintagedoll1940 · Oct 12, 2009, 10:11 AM

Thank you so much for taking up the time to answere me.(id probevly still be searching for answeres right now.I gess backing off is best right now.

Much love,

amicon · Oct 12, 2009, 10:15 AM

Leave this be and see if he gets back to you but I think he s probably not all that interested.

vintagedoll1940 · Oct 12, 2009, 05:43 PM

Thank you amicon that already 2 people saying the samething...

Gess I have to let it be no matter how much I'm feeling this guy :-( sucks..

vintagedoll1940 · Oct 12, 2009, 06:00 PM

:phey guys!

So my earlier posts where about this guy I've been crushing on.As I believe and manny of you believe the guy is showing no interest I should just let it be.
My question now is how?Do I still say hi to him?what about during gym should I ignore the guy?should I show him I'm hurt what's the best way I should act to show him that I am more important.

The sooner you guys answere the better since I'm going to see him tomorrow.

Thanks for reading... :o

Fr_Chuck · Oct 12, 2009, 06:07 PM

Not flirting is not being rude, I say "HI" to people I hate .

And you need to be yourself, now if you want to go on and tell him how you feel do it, but remember if he is not there, it can hurt

Hollisterbaybee · Oct 12, 2009, 06:23 PM

First step: start with a simple hi
Then syart building a conversation ask him what's up and ask him a question like maybe so what's your favorite subject this year and he will ask you and you guys can start talking about intresta you about enjoy.
Then make talking to him a daily routine and get to know him better and maybe once you guys know each other it mite work!
Hope this advice helps!

barbiechick123 · Oct 12, 2009, 11:21 PM

Eh yeah don't worry, sugar... Just move on, plenty more fish in the sea. He doesn't even seem that cool in the conversation, like not smooth at all.. that or he just don't care, which is not worth wasting time :).

amicon · Oct 12, 2009, 11:47 PM

Don't worry too much about it you re a bright girl you ll meet someone who deserves you-in the meantime enjoy life.

vintagedoll1940 · Oct 13, 2009, 07:49 AM

Thank you so much guys... ;-)

vintagedoll1940 · Oct 13, 2009, 05:54 PM

We only spoke for a week the first day we got to know each other and he seemed in to me he called me preatty and held my hand,the next day he kissed me the rest of the week we hardly spoke I tried speaking to him on line but he didn't seem so interested I know its only been a week but he really hurted me I mean come on it was a crush... he ignores me now when he walks past me in school he does not even go to the one and only class we have together and I asked him what happened he just responded by saying I don't know what to say to you or I stumble.What should I doo show him that he hurt me or say hi as if nothing happened?Its abvious he is not in to me and it really hurts me.. :(

tany072075 · Oct 14, 2009, 05:37 AM

Just let it go. If he's not man enough to tell you he's not interested then he's not worth the time to find out why. I've been in your situation more times than I care to admit. You're stroking his ego by trying to talk to him. Not to mention looking like a fool. I know its hard because you just want to know what went wrong but try to just forget it and move on.

redhed35 · Oct 14, 2009, 05:46 AM

Get busy doing other things,see your friends and talk to them...

Sometimes things fizzle out,for no apparent reason,but we still get hurt...

Your head is telling you is was only a week,and your heart is saying,ouch.

Perhaps he did you a favour,walking away now instead of letting things continue,where you would have been more hurt.

Tyr not to get attached so easily.

J_9 · Oct 14, 2009, 06:16 AM

Just let it go, there is nothing else you can do. Go on and live your life like you did before you met him. There is someone better for you out there. Come on, you only knew him a week right? A week is hardly enough time to even remember is first and last name!

Jake2008 · Oct 14, 2009, 07:34 AM

I agree with everything that has been said. You've been given good advice.

If he were interested, he would have taken your cues, and responded in some meaningful way, but he hasn't.

While you may be hurting because he is disinterested, to keep looking for clues or signs that mean 'maybe', you are wasting your time in pursuing him.

Try to look at this as a learning experience, and think about your life not revolving around something that you cannot force to happen.

Nobody needs a boyfriend, and someone will come along for you someday, and there will be no questions about his interest.

HotPotato2009 · Oct 14, 2009, 08:08 AM

Be yourself. Don't change for anyone

vintagedoll1940 · Oct 15, 2009, 08:01 AM

Thanks again guys.. I actually do enjoy reading every word you have to say and taking them in to considiration since I'm only 18 I need all the advice I can get since some times friends won't tell you the truth.. or they would try to sugar coat things.