Originally Posted by
Clough
Hi again, WayBackHome!
So, what's one thing that might be keeping you from pursuing them with more concentration, please?
Originally Posted by
I wish
Could this question be better suited in the Personal Growth section?
Getting your life together is a good step and it will put you in a better position to talk to girls anyway.
Whether it's possible or not is up to you. Concentration and motivation are two key factors. Try reading some of these books to assist you:
If the thread is going to take this angle then maybe we should move it (I don't know how to do this). The only reason why I put it in dating was because of the "stop thinking about girls" part.
The only things I really want to focus on are academics and health. The other stuff I can handle easily. I mean these things should make me more desirable to a girl but I'm more concerned with myself at the moment. It's not homework assignments, it's showing up to 8AM classes and studying for tests that are not my forte. I have trouble getting up on time and getting to sleep on time. Friends are distracting. I feel the need to socialize too which interferes with my academics.
Originally Posted by
redhed35
make a decision and stick to it....start small,give yourself 3 months..and expand from there,like a sabatial..a leave of absence from dating...
Good idea!
Originally Posted by
unaffected
Yeah. I've been rejected twice already -- and it's not like she volunteered another time to meet. It was just flat-out rejection and "I'm sorry :(". I'm leaving out important details but they don't really matter because if she really wanted to see me, she'd suggest alternative dates. I was NEVER in a good position to ask her out anyway. It's an ongoing process but I'm going to back down unless I see her in person. I don't feel like I have much to offer her anyway (ie: she can do much better; I'm being realistic here).
I'm not "giving up" per se -- but moving ahead with my head held high. Hopefully one day I will be able to interest her; but it is far from my life's goal. I just want to be happy and healthy (don't we all? :D)