[HotPotato2009]

but it is always something else, the running with him, the getting up earlier,

Like I said before.. all post from sooo long ago! So what if something else comes up. That's life! We work them out and move on. We're still together for a reason. Obviously something is working.

I know people who have it a lot worse!

[Homegirl 50]

Well then I wish the both of you the best.

[talaniman]

Don't be so defensive. That's why we merge threads on this forum, and why we all have the ability to look up past threads that haven't been merged, to get a clear picture, so advice is based on facts, and patterns we see.

One pattern we all see with you is your basic taking things personally and being unsure exactly how to react, and to us older people who have sat in your shoes, that's pretty normal for your ages. As you get more experienced dealing with the feelings that are triggered by events you go through, your reactions will be different.

I think we all go through that as we grow and learn, which is a lifetime thing, LOL, and we won't get carried away by those feelings as we settle down from having gone through many different things. That's what your posts are telling us, your going through a lot that will leave you experienced over time.

Your right, you can only control yourself, and no one else, and what matters is how you deal with what life throws at you. I can tell you, even old dogs like myself still don't get it perfect every time, but we do keep learning from those less than perfect experiences.