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Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 06:53 PM

A friend tried to kiss me and I acted as if I did not understand... now I feel weird. I have never been in a relationship, but I still understand certain things... at least I think so. This one is a regular friend, know him for a couple of months now... never thought he was interested in me, for that matter I knew he was interested in a friend of mine, through whom I know him. A part of me says he maybe was just stressed (due to some recent events in his life) and maybe that's why he acted like that (thats the reason I did not react negatively) but at the same time, I feel very weird!! I did not let him do it but also did not react to it that time, I am about to meet him again today and now it feels like I can't! The weirdness of the whole situation is kind of sinking in. HELP!! SOS!! HELP!! :(

none12345 · Sep 17, 2009, 06:58 PM

How do you feel about him? Are you interested in him?

Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 07:01 PM

I never thought of him like that... Seems like a nice person but the way it happenend... Well was more like a friendly fight... apparently though... 'cause I had started to become nervous.

none12345 · Sep 17, 2009, 07:21 PM

What do you mean you never thought of him that way? Does it mean you could think of him that way?

To solve the wierdness just talk to him about how you feel. And take it from there.

bjohnrupp · Sep 17, 2009, 07:25 PM

Kiss him and see how you feel afterwards

Cat1864 · Sep 17, 2009, 07:26 PM

How old are you?

Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 07:30 PM

I never thought about that... liking him, maybe, maybe not! He is a nice and simple guy (thats what I thought about him till last evening, now I have mixed feelings), but I know for sure that he is not my kind of a guy.

About talking to him, after all that pretence from my side... It would be more than just awkward... What do you think? Plus he also din talk about it, how can he expect to just grab someone and kiss?

Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 07:35 PM

Originally Posted by bjohnrupp

kiss him and see how you feel afterwards

Well! I have always thought there will be my one Mr. Perfect... so even though I really want to experience this, I would want to wait... I have waited for 27 years (thats how old I am) and even though I am curious, I enjoy the romance in waiting... I believe someday I'll meet him...

Cat1864 · Sep 17, 2009, 08:02 PM

Originally Posted by Perplexed_me

I have never been in a relatonship, but I still understand certain things... at least I think so.

What is your definition of a "relationship"? How can you understand anything if you haven't tried it? Relationships are not something that you learn how to handle from a book. Even trying to learn about them from friends can be misleading.

Well! I have always thought there will be my one Mr. Perfect... so even though I really want to experience this, I would want to wait... I have waited for 27 years (thats how old I am) and even though I am curious, I enjoy the romance in waiting... I believe someday I'll meet him...

You have spent 27 years waiting for "Mr. Perfect"? I am sorry but there is no "Mr. Perfect". All men have flaws just as women do. NO MAN can live up to Prince Charming or "Mr. Perfect".

bjohnrupp · Sep 17, 2009, 08:22 PM

Originally Posted by Cat1864

What is your definition of a "relationship"? How can you understand anything if you haven't tried it? Relationships are not something that you learn how to handle from a book. Even trying to learn about them from friends can be misleading.

You have spent 27 years waiting for "Mr. Perfect"? I am sorry but there is no "Mr. Perfect". All men have flaws just as women do. NO MAN can live up to Prince Charming or "Mr. Perfect".

I have to give rep to cat... you're going to have to be much less picky and give someone a chance and get to know them. Maybe this guy isn't right for you but get out there and live life! Life is too short to be waiting around for the "perfect guy" because like cat says he doesn't exist

Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 08:33 PM

Interesting! I sometimes I feel, maybe I really am incapable of love, maybe I never will fall in love with anyone. But then at the end of the day I also know that there will be one person who will be the single most important thing in my life. My Mr. Perfect will be the person who understands me and knows my silence more than my words.

Maybe I really have read a lot of romances or seen too many movies, but somehow there is this feeling that I will meet him someday and till that day, I keep everything that is special only for him. A certain expression on my face, that only he must see nobody else should.

I would be lying if I'd say I never got tempted or never thought of taking chances, but every time the very thought of doing such a thing becomes impossible, This feeling has gone into my blood and has total control over my reactions and reflexes.

As of moment, I don't know if I should meet this guy today or not? Its kind of awkward.

none12345 · Sep 17, 2009, 09:02 PM

I believe there is Mr/Miss Perfect for everyone. Its true everyone has flaws but how you see someone, is your own judgement. Perfection is in the eyes of the beholder.

Anyway back on topic, awkward situations are the best to get to know someone more. I think you should talk to him about it, who knows you might end up liking him afterwards.

Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 09:14 PM

:) I'll try.

What if he gets defensive and denys... It'll be so embarrassing!!

none12345 · Sep 17, 2009, 09:17 PM

Originally Posted by Perplexed_me

:) I'll try.

What if he gets defensive and denys... It'll be so embarassing!!!

Lol you go girl! Nah, its never as embarrassing as things seems! You know what he did, and he can't man up and admit it, he won't make a great friend and you ll know he's not the one for you! And worse comes to worse, you don't have to see him again :)

Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 09:19 PM

bjohnrupp, I tried that but it feels like cheating myself, at least I must enjoy doing that, I end up feeling like a cheater.

:) you are right... I'll do it, I'll talk to him, lets see what happens. Thanks! I'm feeling a li'l less jittery now.

none12345 · Sep 17, 2009, 09:25 PM

Originally Posted by Perplexed_me

:) u r right... I'll do it, I'll talk to him, lets see what happens. Thanks! I'm feeling a li'l less jittery now.

NP! Think of it this way. You have everything to gain. You might gain a lover or a best friend or another friend and nothing to lose. =P

Perplexed_me · Sep 17, 2009, 09:38 PM

Hmm... Thanks again :)

I'll post here whatever happens next... :)

none12345 · Sep 17, 2009, 09:39 PM

Originally Posted by Perplexed_me

Hmm... Thanks again :)

I'll post here whatever happens next... :)

Okay keep us updated!

Perplexed_me · Sep 19, 2009, 01:47 PM

Guess what!! I was right, He really must be more embaressed than I was awkward... He avoided meeting me yesterday and has'nt called the whole day today either.

Guess I'll just wait and watch, the ball is in his court now, I had been understanding enough by not reacting rudely.

Whatsay?

none12345 · Sep 19, 2009, 02:15 PM

Originally Posted by Perplexed_me

Guess what!!! I was right, He really must be more embaressed than I was awkward... He avoided meeting me yesterday and has'nt called the whole day today either.

Guess I'll just wait and watch, the ball is in his court now, I had been understanding enough by not reacting rudely.

Whatsay?

Is it normal for him to call you often? To me it just seems like you see him as someone you would like. =P

The ball is in his court, just let him contact you, if he doesn't just move on.