[etc2525]

I am divorced and the mother of 2 children aged 15 and 11. I have been living with "Adam" (in my home) for 2 years and we have been together a total of 8 years. Things started to unravel in our relationship when I found out that he's been getting "massages" and meeting women that he's had contact with through the internet. I sat him down last week and told him that I thought it was best if we went our separate ways. I told him that I no longer felt the same way about him and that I thought our relationship had run its course. I told him I was not throwing him out on the street... that I would give him a reasonable amount of time to find a new place to live... 4 to 6 weeks I thought would be sufficient. Since the talk, he's been acting like nothing happened. It's weird but it's almost like the talk I had with him never happened. I know that he still cares about me but I was very straightforward with him. I left no doubt that I didn't want this relationship with him to continue. Should I talk to him again about this now... or should I wait for a little more time to pass to see if he's making an effort to move out?

[adam_89]

You could take either of these options. If it is my guess I would say he doesn't take you seriously and thinks you were just in a bad mood that day or something. Just send him a little helpful hint like "hey, how is the packing coming" or something like that and maybe he will start to realize you are serious or give him little updates like "you are gone on 3 more weeks just to let you know" and keep updating him on it to make sure he knows.

[Scleros]

Were it me, and you had given me 4 to 6 weeks from the outset, of your own volition noless, I don't think you're then entitled to harrass me about it for the duration. However, that doesn't mean you can't be fully ready to proceed with forced eviction come week 7.

[Imabadman]

I don't see that asking him if he's still prepared to move out on X-date is harassment... a gentle reminder is fine in my opinion. Providing you two are not bumping uglies and carrying on like a couple.

[I wish]

It's never a good idea to live under the same roof as an ex. Furthermore, you have children who are your priority. You must keep in mind that you have to act in the best of your children. Now that he's an ex, he's basically a stranger in the house. So it would be best to remind him that it would be in both your best interest that he moves out as soon as possible to avoid any unnecessary entanglements. Just remember to approach him in a calm and mature manner. You have to set a good example for your children. The less drama the better, otherwise it would be an unhealthy environment for your children.

[talaniman]

No more talk, serve him with his eviction notice, and change the locks. Doesn't matter whether he acknowledges it, or not, as long as your within your lawful rights.

Don't feed him, or do anything a loving partner would do.