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hunter_mhs · Sep 10, 2009, 11:27 AM

Okay this may seem stupid. But I don't get if she likes me or not. She always calls me a lier when I say I'm over her, she even jumped in my face when she found out I spent a night with another girl . The problem is that we broke up about four motnths ago. And a month into it she was with another guy. But now she wants me to do romantic things for her and say romantic things to her. She keeps saying how she feels like a b**** about breaking it off. Its at the point where she's crying to me about it. We went out a week ago and it was great. She keeps telling mutual friends that we are "talking about going back out". But the funny thing is when ever I ask her about it she says we cant. I'm just compleately mind f**ked about this. I mean I want to date her again. What do I do. Any help or insight would be greatly accepted. Thank you in advance.

bswc · Sep 10, 2009, 11:39 AM

Do you/Can you? The point here is about this girl, not about u. She sounded like a employer to u, ask you to work your a* off so that you can get a nice income and in the end you got NOTHING.

Why would you date someone when she f*ed u up with dramas. She's immature and thick-faced IMO. She stalks you like baby, play you like a doll!

kctiger · Sep 10, 2009, 11:42 AM

Takes two to play a game... stop playing the game and IT'S OVER!

amicon · Sep 10, 2009, 11:44 AM

The point IS about you-you can stop the gameplaying.

talaniman · Sep 10, 2009, 06:39 PM

Harshness warning

Why would a healthy guy, put up with an emotional bully like her??

Why would a healthy guy let a female bully him, AND lead him around like a pet??

Is this your idea of fun?? Whens your birthday so we can all chip in, and buy a collar.

My advice is to stand up for yourself, and not be bullied, or treated like a puppy, who accepts whatever master says, and is training you some new tricks.

Sorry guy ain't that much love in the world for that. Not for me any way.

DerelictHerds · Sep 10, 2009, 07:49 PM

Originally Posted by hunter_mhs

i mean i wanna date her again.

You don't.

paxe · Sep 10, 2009, 07:59 PM

Stay away! Leave her alone, apply No Contact from now on. If she really loves you she will come back.

dincher · Sep 10, 2009, 08:07 PM

People like her want attention. Once the attention is gone, she's desperate for it to come back. When you give it to her, she becomes the emotional bully. My advice? Run for the hills.

hunter_mhs · Sep 11, 2009, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by paxe

If she really loves you she will come back.

Ive applied no contact for the first three months. And things were great. Then one day I get a text. We started talking again. And I placed her in the friend zone. It was hard to do but I had to. We ended up talking about our relationship. And I get it guys don't treat her like a person. I mean they all treat her like s*** . She just acts so weird. Like I can tell she wants to come back. But I know for a fact that she talked so much about how it would never happen again but here she is . Wanting to come back but afraid to ask.

Thanks again for your input.

I wish · Sep 11, 2009, 07:05 AM

Too much drama. Stay away.

Don't contact her anymore, it will just confuse the both of you and worse, you will reset all the progress you have made.

Here are the no contact rules: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html

Don't break the rules!

talaniman · Sep 11, 2009, 07:34 AM

She keeps telling mutual friends that we are "talking about going back out". But the funny thing is when ever I ask her about it she says we cant. I'm just completely mind f**ked about this. I mean I want to date her again

She is stringing you along, and your letting her.

She just acts so weird. Like I can tell she wants to come back. But I know for a fact that she talked so much about how it would never happen again but here she is . Wanting to come back but afraid to ask.

She is not afraid to ask to comeback, and she likes it the way it is.

Breaking NC, and discussing your so called relationship is a big mistake, and needs to stop. You don't have a relationship, just her doing what she wants, and manipulating you.

none12345 · Sep 11, 2009, 08:05 AM

Hmmm let me recap. She shows jealousy when you are with another girl but she's not with you. She tells her friends she thinks of getting back with you and she tells you she cant. Lots of things contradicts here. I don't think its healthy and you should get away from this FAST.

BMI · Sep 11, 2009, 08:10 AM

Nonsense.

With agirl like this you'd do well to heed the advice of all the above. Also, sometimes after a break-up people just want to know their missed, that you still want them, even if they have no intention of going back with you. The fact they know they can have you four months after the fact is a victory in itself, no need to actually do it physically.