[artlady]

I am done hijacking this thread.

[morgaine300]

I'm not quite sure how stating he was the "so-called" husband is any major husband bashing. It was one comment, probably out of frustration. Besides, what she says here may not be the same thing she would say in other circumstances -- I certainly don't always post here the way I might talk to someone in a different situation.

I too feel that knowing hubby walked out is relevant. I'm not too inclined to feel sorry for, or any obligation to help, someone who just went out and got pregnant and took no responsibility for the situation. If someone simply posted saying they wanted a free car, I'd say, well, gee I'd like a free car too. (Especially since I just bought one and paid darn good money I earned for it!) Knowing hubby walked out and someone needs to get back on their feet is a different issue.

And even if this woman had some part in something, hubby still shares responsibility for those kids! She shouldn't have to support them all by herself. That kind of stinks.

[zippit]

I was really hoping the op returned to give more feedback.I learned one thing regardless of the why and how , she came here for help and a debate broke out.not good
And I started it
Not good.
It's a learning curve.
You wouldn't believe it from the reply my dad left us and didn't move to the otherside of town we were in Colorado springs he went back to Texas.we went from a middle income happy family to me watching mom crying her eyes at the welfare office.it destroyed our family that's why I was trying to focus on the getting help.
The words were not the best but they were not coming from ignorance

[N0help4u]

I hope somebody does give her a car cause I really know what it is like walking 4 kids up and down hills and all to get them to doctors appts, carrying bunches of bags of groceries home and having to keep kids under control and out of traffic at the same time, people criticizing you instead of offering help, welfare telling you too bad you are still breast feeding your new born you HAVE to find a job.
Then sometimes you have to go the opposite direction to drop them off at daycare and it doesn't open early enough for you to make it to work 20 miles away in a matter of a few minutes and you don't even have a car. BUT you HAD to take the job or be sanctioned by welfare
People think its easier than it is.

[zippit]

I remember one time walking home with mom from the grocery strore I was carrying three bags,the walk wasn't to bad like 6-7 blocks but we got right to the door and one of the bags slipped and hit the ground and broke a jar of miracle whip and my mom just went ballistic crying I felt so horrible.
Who knows if the op doesn't return
Maybe she heard it was free car giveaway on AMHD day

[morgaine300]

As for the debate breaking out - considering it was much about how OP is handling the situation, no big deal if you ask me.

Nohelp, your story just emphasizes how important it is to have two parents. I live alone and don't even have any kids, and sometimes it can get real difficult cause I'm the only one there is to do anything -- i.e. I'm the one bringing home the bacon, doing all the "traditional female" stuff around the house like cooking, cleaning, etc. AND all the "traditional male" stuff like mowing lawns and fixing everything. (And I can't afford a plumber.) And then trying to have time to do what *I* want to do so I don't go crackers.

I can not even imagine adding kids to that picture. I really don't think I could handle it. (Well, perhaps a bit better when I was younger.)

[NeedKarma]

Hey puppy,
I think you've spammed your links on this site enough times already - please stop.