[jjmartin]

My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago, after 4 months of dating, I really miss her, and was just wondering if there's any chance of getting back together. When we started dating things happened fast and I was spending every night at her house after just a couple of weeks of dating, but she wanted me there. I am a giving, affectionate and attention giving person by nature, so yeah I spoiled her. She is a stubborn and independent type. She has a lot of guy friends, and I would get jealous from time to time, and say something about it. It finally ended when I blew up at her one night for really nothing at the time, but a buildup of things that happened before. I apologized for it and a week later we went out again and had a good time and I spent the night with her, and a couple days later I was feeling sad and just asked her what was going on with us. Since then it has just faded, I did the whole tell her all my feeling and text messaging thing for a couple weeks, but never said anything mean or rude, just that I missed her and compliments. I slowly started to try and let it go, and would text her every few days or so, and now where at no contact, although she did text me the other day on my birthday wishing me a happy one, I just sent back "thank you". So at this point other than that thank you I haven't talked to her in a week and haven't seen her in a week and a half. She's out doing her own thing and I'm trying my best to do mine... can you help??

[I wish]

Breakups are always difficult. Just move on with your life. You're single now. Do whatever you want. Spend time with friends. Meet new people. Find a new hobby.

Avoid talking to her though, cause every time you talk to her, you're going to over-analyse all the signs. Until you've completely recovered from the break up, it's best that you stick with no contact.

[jmw0713]

I would get jealous from time to time, and say something about it. It finally ended when I blew up at her one night for really nothing at the time, but a buildup of things that happened before.

Work on improving your communication skills and become more secure about yourself to eliminate this jealousy.

We all make mistakes and they affect our lives in some way. The best thing to do is learn from them and realize why things didn't work out. Use that knowledge with the next girl and move on from this situation.

at this point other than that thank you I haven't talked to her in a week and haven't seen her in a week and a half. She's out doing her own thing and I'm trying my best to do mine... can you help??

This is what you should be doing. It will take time for you to start feeling better, but you are on the right path.

[liz28]

You can't win someone back especially if and when they don't want you back.

The only thing you do right now is accept that things are over, let go, start healing, and move on.

I know you might not want to hear this right now but life goes on. This relationship moved too fast and when this happens it makes the relationship burn out quickly. Next time don't rush and never keep things bottle in. Tackle problems as they come along instead of waiting for the next few to come along.

Remember what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Stay strong!