[Dunkonya21]

Well hello everyone I'm running into a problem with the relationship I'm having. I recently got out of a very bad unhealthy relationship which ended in march which that's when I first joined here =) then my mother recently passed away the same month. I'm not looking for sympathy at all just want to kind of explain that I'm not all fully with things as I would be before march.

So anyway I met a girl that I couldn't make any more perfect. I met her right when me and my ex broke up so we've been friends for awhile and finally started dating. Well there's a couple of catches between this She lives an hour away and the only time we talk is at night and we only see each other maybe like once a week. Which is fine because I'm getting my life back together I have school starting up in August.

So to break it down here's my problem. My past relationship I was pretty much treated like crap and was cheated on probably more then I know. We were in a very unhealthy relationship that lasted 2 years and she pretty much lived with me. Now I'm in this relationship I'm not used to being with someone and only seeing them so few of times. I mean we go on skype and webcam but it's not the same as being face to face. But how do I give this girl a fresh start? She hasn't done anything to not get my trust its just I don't want to get hurt. I treat her like she's my ex and going to do the things she did. So if you guys have any pointers I would appreciate it thanks. I do know the advice of taking day by day which I am going to start doing.

[Torrid13]

I'm very sorry about your string of losses. However, I think getting into another relationship so soon was a bad move. You obviously did not give yourself enough time to heal and cope with the changes going on in your life, and now it's affecting your relationship.

What's worse, is asking for a break to deal with your emotional baggage could prove fatal to the relationship. But it's worth a try. I think you need to get over everything else that ails you before you can really pay adequate attention to someone else and their emotional needs.