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ZoeMarie · Jul 8, 2009, 04:18 PM

It might not be the reason you're asking the question, but it's a red flag none the less

foreverpeace · Jul 8, 2009, 04:23 PM

So I should just completely stop talking to him?

DrJ · Jul 8, 2009, 04:23 PM

Sorry.. where I come from Junior High is 6th - 8th grade. That would have meant you were 13 - 14. Of course, where I come from there is no consent at 16 either.

Ok, regardless of that, take it from me. Heroine is a very serious drug. He may not even realize what he is getting himself into.

You cannot save him. And you cannot afford to keep him in your life because this will bring nothing but bad for you and anyone else that is in his life.

Another point... all he talks about is sex? What about you and your interests? Does he care about them at all?

I think you know the answer here.

foreverpeace · Jul 8, 2009, 04:25 PM

Yes I apologize, I forgot the word in. But yeah I know what I SHOULD do. But I don't want to at all. Im just trying to find every way around leaving him.

J_9 · Jul 8, 2009, 04:27 PM

Originally Posted by foreverpeace

Im just trying to find every way around leaving him.

Why? All he's going to do is bring you down with him. Your life will be a wreck. Have your parents lock up all of their expensive items in your home otherwise they will be gone before you know it.

ZoeMarie · Jul 8, 2009, 04:29 PM

This guy is BAD news. Not the kind of guy a 16-year-old should be associating with. I'm sorry to say that, but it's the truth. No good can come of this. I have a cousin who has gotten into drugs like that. He's now over 30 and because he has made such poor choices, the only job he is able to hold is pizza delivery. No offense to pizza delivery people. ;)

DrJ · Jul 8, 2009, 04:29 PM

Man this thread is moving fast...

I was in a similar situation VERY recently... similar in the way that I was in a relationship... I KNEW what the right answer was but I didn't want to believe it.

I ended it. It was hard... it still is hard. But, nonetheless, it was the right thing to do.

foreverpeace · Jul 8, 2009, 04:30 PM

But he's never brought me into his drug life. He told me about it once just to let me know but he hasn't brought it up since. Im just worried.

ZoeMarie · Jul 8, 2009, 04:31 PM

Originally Posted by DrJizzle

I ended it. It was hard... it still is hard. But, nonetheless, it was the right thing to do.

Often times, the right decisions are the hardest ones to make.

J_9 · Jul 8, 2009, 04:32 PM

Originally Posted by foreverpeace

But he's never brought me into his drug life. He told me about it once just to let me know but he hasn't brought it up since. Im just worried.

He hasn't yet, but the time will come where he will slip up, or the addiction get too strong.

You have your whole life ahead of you, don't ruin it now.

bethanydaly · Jul 8, 2009, 04:37 PM

You don't need him... Honestly. He's a bad influence on you... ( taking drugs)... if he's taking them your more likely too as well. And if he seems to go on about sex all the time.. that's probably all her wants...

Don't fall for iit.. You can do so much better..

Good Look :) x

Romefalls19 · Jul 8, 2009, 04:40 PM

I equate drug users(especially heroin and the harder ones) as cancers, because they start with just themselves, then slowly they spread beyond control and you're left wondering "If I had caught this earlier" but by then it's too late.

Btw, if your parents don't approve, then yes, it is rape.

DrJ · Jul 8, 2009, 04:43 PM

Originally Posted by zippit

the post wants to get off the subject of age and grades,cant you people help her without calling her a liar..

You really have to take all things into consideration when trying to give someone advice. It's typically called "reading between the lines" and therein usually lies the answer.

DrJ · Jul 8, 2009, 04:44 PM

Where did it go?

Romefalls19 · Jul 8, 2009, 04:48 PM

I was wondering the same thing DrJ

foreverpeace · Jul 8, 2009, 04:49 PM

But you guys should understand, if you really like someone. You can't help it ha. Its like no matter what gets in the way.. I'm still going to like him. And no I made it seem like all he talks about is sex. Nah its not just about that.

J_9 · Jul 8, 2009, 04:50 PM

You keep evading the drugs issue. Aren't you concerned about that.

zippit · Jul 8, 2009, 04:51 PM

Originally Posted by DrJizzle

You really have to take all things into consideration when trying to give someone advice. It's typically called "reading between the lines" and therein usually lies the answer.

read between the lines or interogating

Romefalls19 · Jul 8, 2009, 05:20 PM

No, zippit you are incorrect. Being as Drj and myself have read countless posts(evident by our post count) we have seen information that gets hidden between sentences, there are several issues here that raise red flags.

1. Drug user
2. She's 16, he's 19
3. Seems like she won't tell her parents about him
4. He talks heavily(she retracted her statement about all the time) about sex

That's four huge red flags she needs to be aware of and she is ignoring.

Torrid13 · Jul 8, 2009, 07:36 PM

Okay. You said he does "all of these crazy drugs" but "still has a good head on his shoulders."

Okay. Okay. Hold on while I try to figure how exactly you think someone can have a good head on their shoulders when it's rotting away from drugs.

RUN AWAY. If you don't run away, he'll get you sucked into his bad habit, and then you'll have a "good" rotting head on your shoulders, too.